Are You Fed Up Enough to Claim What You Actually Want?

Are You Fed Up Enough to Claim What You Actually Want?

I’m Sarah, an Inner Alignment Coach and Energetic Healer. 

I have 20+ years business experience. I’ve worked for everything from not-for-profits to startups to Fortune 500 companies…I literally circled the globe conducting leadership development training.

On paper you would’ve thought I had it all figured out. 

But when my husband and I started trying for babies, things didn’t go as planned. Suffice to say my fertility journey led me down an unforeseen path of personal and professional growth and transformation. Odd as it may sound, even with all the heartache I endured, looking back now I honestly wouldn’t change a thing because I feel like I’d be a shadow of the person I am now without it.

It led me here. 

I’m now a renegade who’s super connected to herself and what she wants, who gets her kicks seeing women heal and get what they really want.

Yes, I help women have the babies, partners, business ventures, beachfront homes, saunas, meaningful friendships, and all the money and success they’ve always dreamt of.

But what I really help them do is feel the way they want — ease and trust that they can relax, because everything is lining up naturally. Feeling the way you desire manifests all the other things you’ve dreamt of having, naturally.

3 Things to Know

  1. You have to be fed up to create change.

The very first thing you need to understand is that you must be fed up with the way things are in order to show up for yourself enough to create sustainable change. Fed up with how things have been, to the point you feel like screaming “I can’t do this anymore!” Fed up with feeling the same old exhausting way, and with the rule-following (all those arbitrary rules imposed by society, family, and “The Man”...what’s normal, what’s expected, what you look like, how to act, what you feel, how much of it you express and when…). Overcoming the inertia of how things have been takes significant effort, so you have to know in your bones you were meant for more, that you have a life worth fighting for. 

2. Your current feelings always create your future reality.

The second thing you must embrace is that your current feelings are always creating your future results, your future reality. When you understand this, the important question becomes “how do I really feel”? I’m not talking about how you respond when someone says “hey, how are ya?” I’m talking about inside, how you really feel inside. Are you anxious, frustrated, resentful, sad, go go going through the motions or on high-speed all the time, exhausted from working so hard to keep it together? If you’re experiencing these emotions more than you care to admit, it’s impossible for it to not be reflected in your life. When you’re ready for things to change, the key is to focus inward. Focusing inside yourself is the only way things will change out there.

3. Your body is already ready already! You Just Need to Leverage it to your advantage.

Once you’re fed up and ready to embrace that you want more, it’s pretty easy with my Inner Alignment program, because you’re leveraging the natural regeneration process of your body (what’s literally already happening anyway!) and utilizing it to shift things to create what you actually want

The cells in your body always have more receptors for the chemicals they’ve been flooded with in the recent past. If you’re like most women who have been anxious and overwhelmed, you currently have more receptors for stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline, and you’ll feel those emotions more readily. As you learn in my program to pause and let the stress chemicals wash through your system, you’ll have more moments of calm which of course feels better n the moment AND builds more receptors on your cells for the “feel good” hormones (e.g. oxytocin and endorphins). It gets exponentially more powerful when your cells divide as they naturally do every 8 weeks – for each you now have 2 cells with more receptors supporting you feeling calm and at ease.

Neurological rewiring works similarly. They say “neurons that fire together wire together” meaning whatever thoughts you’ve practiced in the past (intentionally or not!), your brain is currently wired to support thinking habitually. Therefore, you’ll keep thinking the same old thing that will keep your life feeling the same until you put in the work to support thinking what you actually want. You need to wire together new neural networks that align with how you want to feel. As in my program you learn to spend time focusing on what you actually want, you create a brain/mind that automatically supports feeling the way you desire. 

Your cells and neurons are already regenerating in this way every 8 weeks – why not use this process intentionally to support the change you’d love to experience in your life?? I can show you how.

This is what makes it possible (inevitable, really) to experience a tremendous shift in what you think, how you feel and therefore what you create in your life in a very short period of time, and how the results you’re creating are innately sustainable because you’ve wired them in at the physiological level.

It’s literally impossible for things to stay as they were when you’re fed up with how things have been and begin showing up for yourself in this new way.

It’s a whole new way of existing in the world

Allowing Inner Alignment to be the “work” you do to have what you want really simplifies things – you have one place to focus to create what you want in your life. You create the feeling you desire inwardly, and what you want out there in the world manifests naturally. If it sounds too simple to be true, that’s probably your brain trying to keep things the way they have been, because change is scary. Are you fed up enough? If yes, call BS on that safety-seeking stuff and join me anyway!

Inner Alignment is THE way, and why I’ve created a movement of women who are ready to break the mold, ready to embrace a new way of “working” to have what we’ve dreamed of. It becomes your way of living, not a task you’re checking off a list. 

I’m here, ready to show you how. Are you fed up enough?

Get started here >>

 
 
 

What Does It Mean to "Take Your Life Back"?

What Does It Mean to "Take Your Life Back"?

To answer this question, we need to look at what or whom “took it away.”

Is it a general sense of being out of control (stress, anxiety, depression, exhaustion, etc.) for  you by now?

Or do you know exactly when it began and what happened? 

Either way, the symptoms are often the squeaky wheels that get the grease – therapy and pills, “to-do” and “maybe someday” lists that linger, supplements and endless appointments…all intending to address how “feeling out of control“ is manifesting in your life. 

The real question is: What’s beneath, at the root? 

The answer is often elusive because it got buried over time.

Experiences and people (and resulting beliefs) that began stimulating the thoughts and feelings that have disconnected you from yourself…

Things that hurt so much when you experienced them you couldn’t fully process it at the time – for safety or survival, because you didn’t know how, or you resisted because it was just too much to handle…

And now those old thoughts and feelings feel SO engrained, like they’re who you are. 

It’s like the real you is being held hostage by the past that hasn’t been healed.

It’s like the real you is being held hostage by the past that hasn’t been healed.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. It can actually be quite simple to “take your life back” when you know HOW.

Maybe you’ve been living this way for so long you don’t even know what it would be like to be free from that old baggage. 

This is where my Renegade Daughter course comes in ($222). 

Not only will you learn simple techniques for releasing the past that holds you back, you also get the exact steps needed to reclaim the true you that’s been waiting underneath. 

When you follow my program, in 4 week’s time you’ll feel more like the real you than you have in a very long time AND you’ll know how to make it sustainable for life (or you get your money back!).

This is what I mean by “take your life back”. You can learn to fully feel and process anything and everything that happened and set down that old baggage, so it can no longer disconnect you from your true self. From there you can move forward, free to be you and live the life you choose.

Grab my Renegade Daughter course right now to get started.

Working with Uncomfortable Emotions

Working with Uncomfortable Emotions

When something doesn’t feel good, it’s natural to try not to feel it — who wants pain and suffering? So you tend to try to look the other way, distract yourself from the thought/circumstances/etc that triggered the uncomfortable feelings.

You think about something else, DO something to stay busy enough so you can forget, at least for a little while.

You numb out with alcohol, food, drugs, sex, binging Netflix… It can work!

Problem is, you have to keep doing it for it to work.

But when it’s quiet and still, the unwanted feelings come right back.

But when it’s quiet and still, the unwanted feelings come right back.

They’re always waiting.

There’s no amount of sweeping them under the rug that will ever make the pain go away.

It’s what we do, most often, because we haven’t been taught how to fully feel at all AND still be okay.

Once you learn this skill though, the skill of feeling it all and being okay, NOTHING gets to have power over you any longer because you know that, even though you may not have chosen it, whatever happens you can allow it to move through you.

This way you don’t have to keep doing more, distracting yourself, numbing out…

You have that time, energy, resources back.

Life gets easier.

You are free to do what you actually want, not what you must in order to avoid feeling crappy.

Ready to learn how?

Grab my Renegade Daughter course for $222. It’s a four-week plan with the EXACT STEPS that will get you to that freedom of feeling.

Always Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop?

Feel Like You're Always Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop?

Even when things are “fine”?

i see you.

I see you. Sad. Frustrated. At your wits end BUT putting on a happy face.

You’re not sleeping well. You’re burnt out. Sometimes you’re short with people around you. And you’re really hard on yourself.

Your heart is heavy. You went through something really hard and it’s Dragging. You. Down.

Even though you’re strong…That hard thing that happened feels like a tether that holds you back no matter what you do, how much you accomplish, or how much time passes.

You’ve tried everything you can think of but moving forward with genuine peace in your heart is an elusive goal you’ve begun to wonder if you’ll ever achieve.

No more.

It’s time to heal what’s been holding you back so you feel free.

My Renegade Daughter OnDemand program will teach you how in just 4 weeks.

This course consists of the most valuable, life-changing lessons, practices and guides from my private 1:1 program in a condensed, unedited 4-week on-demand format.

Here’s what you’ll get:
👉​​4 Weeks of Empowering Virtual Lessons and Deep Self-guided Inner Work (~30-40 mins/week)
​👉Holistic Body, Mind, Spirit Approach
​👉Simple Step-by-Step Guides
​👉Powerful Guided Meditations
​💥FREEDOM!

If you have been weighed down by life, I want you to have my Renegade Daughter program so you can begin feeling better TODAY. You’ll learn simple, powerful strategies and tools that will empower you to create real, lasting changes in your life.

The cost is $222 and it may be the most valuable thing you’ll ever do for yourself.

Get started NOW

Are you fed up with the past weighing you down?

Are you fed up with the past weighing you down?

how to Heal Your Past So You Feel Free

HERE’S THE THING: I can spot you a mile away – you’re weighed down by life. You’re showing up on the outside but inside you’re hurting badly. You’re burning so much energy just getting through the day with a half-smile pasted on your face. I can see through that facade and want to know more because – I can help. I can show you how to help yourself.

And I’m fed up with not helping enough.

Recently I was reading the description of a book I’m considering reading this summer and it had a few quotes, one of which stopped me in my tracks. It said: “I imagine it would feel wonderful to be good at something that mattered…” (from The Women, by Kristin Hannah).

“I know that feeling!” I thought. It does feel wonderful to be good at something that matters.

Healing the past so we can be free matters.

I can say that from my own first-hand experience, as well as from others I’ve supported in empowering themselves to heal the past, so they can be free both in the present and for the rest of their lives. I’m really good at it!

BUT I’M NOT DOING ENOUGH OF IT.

I hold this tremendous ability to help people heal and be free, but not enough people know it. The clients I have had the privilege of supporting will gladly tell you quite enthusiastically how their lives have been forever changed. BUT I’m just one lady and I want to help SO many more — thousands, even millions, I dream — and since as a coach I can only work with a very small number of private clients at one time, I’m just not reaching enough people.

So I’ve decided to cut myself out as the middle-person and make the most valuable, life-changing lessons, practices and guides from my private 1:1 program available in a condensed, unedited 4-week on-demand format.

If you have been weighed down by life, I want you to have my Renegade Daughter program.

GET STARTED HERE

Heal what’s holding you back so you can be free!

What a failed past relationship has to do with your fertility

What a failed past relationship has to do with your fertility

Remember that relationship where you were devastated when it ended because you thought that person was “the one“? The one where you worked hard to stay together because you thought at the time it was meant to be?

If you had held onto that person, would you have met the love of your life? Would you now be with someone you’re hoping your baby will take after?

I ask this because we’ve all been there and, when we look back, we see how things had to go down exactly as they did for them to work out as they have now. 

So…what if everything IS working out on your fertility journey? I know you wanted to be pregnant last month and it’s not frustrating to get your hopes up and then get your period. But what if it’s possible there are factors at play that are working FOR you even when it seems like they’re not? Just like that old relationship you wouldn’t go back to now if someone paid you $100K.

It can be so hard to trust that things are working out as they’re supposed to when we can’t see into the future. 

I’m here to remind you your job is to keep your eye on that future and trust that it’s on its way BEFORE it happens, that the path there lies in spending your time in the feeling of that future NOW. 

Try this to put it into practice (and then comment below w/your questions/observations):

  1. Open the Notes app on your phone or grab a sheet of paper and write down 5 things you’re looking forward to about being pregnant and/or having a baby

  2. For each, identify the emotion you’re looking forward to experiencing

  3. Lastly, ask yourself: how can I experience those emotions in my life (exactly as it) TODAY?

(P.S. My private Conception Accelerator Coaching program supports you in going deep in the trust and releasing what gets in the way of staying there – set up a free Strategy Session if you want to empower yourself with a proven framework to get your positive pregnancy test.)

Wondering which fertility-boosting foods are right for you?

Wondering which fertility boosting foods are right for you?

One of my favorite comedians is coming into town. My life is so full at the moment between work and family and special events, logistics, meals and cleaning and… You get the idea, we’re all there in our own way.

So when I saw one of my favorite comedians was coming to town, I went pretty quickly from “yay!” to “I’m too tired to make that happen.” But then this little voice popped in my head and was like “wait a minute, I’m too exhausted from daily life and the things I do for others that I’m not going to make plans to go share some laughs with a friend?”

This is where the value of my daily self-connection practice comes in. It’s possible I am literally too tired, or logistically it would be too challenging or for whatever reason going to the show may not serve me. And that would be ok. When I make that decision from the place of allowing the possibility, it feels entirely different than if I simply say I can’t, I can’t go, which feels limiting. If I don’t go, it’s because I’m choosing not to go based on what feels best to me.

I started practicing this inward self- connection when I was trying to conceive. The Internet is full of “helpful“ advice on things women can do to up their odds each month. 

Each of those things has the potential to be helpful, but we are each unique individuals and so what suits each of us best is relative. Only you can determine which activities will feel good to you. And that should be the only filter when determining what supports your TTC goals —does this feel supportive? If so, great! If not, skip it.

Your ability to make that determination comes from intentionally practicing self connection on an ongoing basis, not just when a decision needs to be made. I’m here to give you the exact steps to build that practice for yourself. Schedule a free chat learn more. 

(P.S.this is also the type of stuff we talk about in my free Reconnecting with your Fertility community. Be sure to join if you aren't already a member!)

It’s Okay to Dread Mother’s Day this Year

It’s Okay to Dread Mother’s Day this Year

Yes it sucks that you were hoping to be pregnant by now and you’re not.

Yes it adds pressure that this holiday only comes around once a year.

Yes it’s hard to see others who have what you want (big belly +/or baby) being celebrated.

Yes there’s often a 2nd layer of shame, feeling like a jerk for being jealous of them.

Yes it’s compounded if you were pregnant and now you’re feeling empty rather than celebratory.

Dread comes in many forms.

Some related emotions include:

  • Shame

  • Abandonment

  • Helpless

  • Unworthy

  • Anxiety

  • Anger

  • Exhaustion

Don’t pressure yourself to feel something else. Mother’s Day isn’t the time to be looking for the silver lining. I realize that may be unpopular advice.

Some may tell you to search for the bright side. But I’m here to say STAY AND LOOK HERE. Notice this feeling. Follow it.

Follow it like a thread…

Is it possible this dread isn’t as much about whether or not you’re pregnant or a mom yet, as it is about something that happened in the past? It’s okay if you don’t even know what it is. This feeling of dread is giving you access to emotions that got stored up somewhere along the way. By feeling them now, you can resolve them for good (so you don’t have to keep experiencing them). 

Are you open to doing that? 

If so, all I want you to do is focus on the space of your heart as you continue allowing the thoughts and feelings that don’t feel good. Put a hand on your chest to help you focus there. That’s it. 

Why? Without getting into the technical details, know that your heart is a powerful electromagnetic field generator (100K x more powerful than your mind). By focusing here, you are calling upon the natural power of your heart to filter out the gunk of the past as you are experiencing it now. 

In my coaching program I teach specific techniques and practices but you can begin right here and now. 

Bookmark this post and return to it each time something about Mother’s Day upsets you.

I’m not here to try and get you to think differently about Mother’s Day. Not being pregnant stinks. AND… 

What if not being pregnant yet is giving you time to heal and become someone you’re going to be SO grateful you became before you became a mom?

Are You Trying to Conceive After a Loss?

Are You Trying to Conceive After a Loss?

My story may offer hope…

Today is the anniversary of my family becoming a complete party of 4. (It’s my daughter’s birthday.)

After having a surprise cesarean birth with my 1st and then enduring 2 losses before conceiving again, I had a VBAC delivery with her. It was one of the most powerful experiences of my life. 

Looking back I wonder how I had the courage to not opt for a surgical birth when my age and prior history of loss suggested we could be “high-risk”. 

And then I remember.

In the months prior to her conception and birth, amongst various other healing, grounding, self-loving activities, I had…

  • planted a garden for the first time (occupying my mind w/learning about things other than pregnancy, and feeding myself evidence I capable of nurturing life)

  • begun my own at home yoga + meditation practices (staying connected inwardly on a daily basis)

  • taken measures to heal gut/fungal issues that had plagued my entire life (enhancing my overall wellbeing and nervous system load)

You may notice these were not fertility-focused activities specific to upping my chances of conceiving! They were measures that increased my vitality, overall balance/wellbeing and self-and connection, such that I could ask within and find answers to questions needing answers. 

THIS is how I got pregnant. I was able to conceive and have a relatively peaceful pregnancy and birth, DESPITE the lingering presence of uncertainty from the cesarean and losses I’d experienced. 

That stuff was still there, of course – it always will be – those experiences had simply been integrated into the story of my life, such that I was able to move forward writing it from a place of desire, not fear.

The uncertainty no longer had the power to sway me to doubt myself, because I was connected enough to hear from within what served me.

The uncertainty no longer had the power to sway me to doubt myself, because I was connected enough to hear from within what served me.

I kept going when things were dark and hard and scary and maddening, because I wanted to have 2 babies, and I wasn’t ready to give up. And now my world is lighter and easier and more fun and joyful, BECAUSE OF THE PATH I TOOK HERE.

So to my youngest daughter I will always be grateful, both for the honor and privilege of knowing her as her mother, and for the gift she gave me of knowing myself.

Can’t stop symptom-spotting during the two-week-wait?

Can’t stop symptom-spotting during the two-week-wait?

Of course it’s normal to be curious whether this will be your month!

The problem comes in when that curiosity shifts from excitement to stress, and no longer feels good. It feels more like you NEED it to happen.

You find yourself almost trying not to get your hopes up, and you think “what if there’s something wrong?” more times a day than you’d care to count.

THIS is where my fertility coaching comes in. It is the quickest path to motherhood. Yes, I realize that sounds like a sales technique but I promise with all my heart, my belief in this process comes from seeing these EXACT STEPS work over and over and over – in just 8 weeks – for so many women who were struggling to conceive. 

If you find yourself more anxious than excited, worried about the amount of time that’s passing, scrolling to get your mind off whether or not you’ll conceive this month, I’m here to support you.

The first thing you need to understand is I am not a fertility specialist. I am not a doctor who is going to tell you what to eat and which supplements to take and whether or not to take your basal body temperature or use OPKs or track your cervical mucus, or how often to have sex around ovulation or whether you should stand on your head for 10 minutes after doing the deed… 

That’s not what I’m good at and there are loads of resources out there with opinions on that stuff. 

What I AM good at is helping you understand yourself from a holistic perspective, so you can reconnect with yourself in such a way that having the family and life you dream of comes with ease, and quickly.

You already have everything you need to have the family and life you want. My job is to show you how. This is THE quickest way out of overwhelm and into motherhood.

Schedule a free Conception Accelerator Strategy session (phone chat) to learn more about private coaching today.

Losing Your Mind Tracking Ovulation and Pregnancy Symptoms?

Losing Your Mind Tracking Ovulation and Pregnancy Symptoms?

there’s another way…

I assumed when I went off birth control I’d get pregnant pretty quickly.

When it didn’t happen right away, within just a few months I started stressing. I talked to my OB/Gyn at my annual visit and FELT LIKE SHE DIDN’T UNDERSTAND ME (“Why was I worrying?” I was young enough, hadn’t been trying for more than a year, etc. they said.). I left feeling dismissed.

And so I started Googling and trying things the internet says may up the odds of conception. Before long, I was driving myself up the wall, timing and tracking things, taking supplements, putting my legs up after sex, etc…lots of things “just in case”. I didn’t even realize how much anxiety these activities were causing, because I was so focused on doing what I thought was necessary.

💥But there was something deeper at play.

The reason I didn’t feel supported by the OB was I was coming at this whole TTC thing from a place of fear. I WAS AFRAID I WASN’T DOING ENOUGH, that it wasn’t just going to HAPPEN for me, since it hadn’t happened in those first few months.

When I felt dismissed by my doc, it was because I wanted them to affirm I had something to worry about. I wanted them to tell me that putting in extra effort would get me to my goal faster. But they didn’t. Because it’s not necessarily true.

It wasn’t until I started doing the inner work to acknowledge the fear that I began doing what I actually NEEDED to do in order to conceive: Relax.

I know, that’s one of the most annoying things to hear when you’re TTC.

But it’s the only way, and I’m here to teach you HOW.

How to truly believe: “I’m going to have a baby. If more information is needed, I’ll know. I can relax.”

Can you imagine feeling that way? It’s 💯% possible.

The fact is, the more you DO, the more your nervous system stays on high alert. And when your nervous system is ramped up, your body is literally less capable of conceiving. It’s a simple fact of how humans are designed to survive.

When you learn to allow inner work to come first, and let go of whatever led you to believe it’s NOT OKAY to relax, doing less comes NATURALLY.

And so does having the family of your dreams.

Were You Hopeful When You First Started Trying to Conceive?

Were You Hopeful When You First Started Trying to Conceive?

But then things took a turn when you weren’t pregnant by the month/season/holiday you had in mind?

I believe Emotional Unfinished Business (EUB) with the past is THE reason women struggle to conceive and have healthy pregnancies when and how they want to.

If this wasn’t the case, you wouldn’t be stressing about it. You’d trust your baby is on its way and be loving life in the meantime.

Were you hopeful when you first started trying but things took a turn when you weren’t pregnant within the timeframe you had in mind?

Emotional Unfinished Business is why you’re:

⚡️Stressing rather than trusting it’s going to happen (This is a product of your nervous system learning fight or flight as the norm, which can result from a messy childhood, a parent who wasn’t around or expected perfection, a partner who was abusive, etc…)

⚡️Disconnected from your inherent ability to create the life you want with ease (This is often a result of needing to put others needs/desires before your own)

⚡️Feeling stuck. No matter what you do it never seems to be enough (This is because there are old emotions stored in your body, ones that were not able to be processed at the time they were experienced (because for whatever reason it wasn’t safe/available for you to do so)

If this resonates with you, I’m here to show you the path to freedom! Join my Reconnecting with you Fertility group, or schedule a free Conception Strategy Session to get started today.

The Most Important Question to Ask if You're Stressing about Conceiving

The Most Important Question to Ask if You're Stressing about Conceiving

Do you remember before you started trying to conceive, what you thought it would be like? Maybe it happens pretty quickly — you just do the deed and next thing you know you’re hopping around the bathroom hugging your partner after revealing the positive test? For once, things just go according to plan.

Fast forward to now. Can you believe how the list of what it takes to have a baby has grown? So much doubt and fear creeps in…

  • Should I be changing my diet? 

  • Is it OK to have a glass of wine or two at my friend’s bday dinner? 

  • Should I be monitoring my cycle more closely? 

  • Should I be doing more to know for certain when I am ovulating? 

  • Should I be doing things to help boost implantation after I think I ovulated?

  • The list is endless.

The question 

If you are amazed by how quickly you went from thinking you’d be pregnant by now to stressing about what may be wrong, ASK YOURSELF this question: Is this feeling new? Or does it feel familiar?

Does it remind you of how you’ve felt not only about getting pregnant but in other areas of your life, recently or when you were younger?

Does it feel like trying to have a baby is one more thing that isn’t working out, like you have to work extra hard when it seems to come easily for others, or like you have to put on a happy face when really you're ashamed/sad/furious inside?

If so, it makes perfect sense that having a baby has become daunting, even though there is no right or wrong way to go about it. 

The Solution

The only thing that matters is what serves YOU, and TO KNOW WHAT THAT IS REQUIRES CONNECTION WITH YOURSELF – SOMETHING THAT WAS LIKELY SHUT DOWN ALONG THE WAY BECAUSE YOU LEARNED TO PUT OTHERS’ NEEDS FIRST

Being connected to yourself is the only way you’ll know what YOU need to have a baby. If changing your diet will feel good or like you’re restricting yourself… If having a drink will feel celebratory or like you’re messing up your chances this month… If you should be using OPKs or if the data will cause your mind to spin…

Next Steps

I can help you resolve the unfinished business from your past in just 8 weeks. When that occurs, having a baby will be the natural byproduct. Schedule a free chat to discuss your unique situation and possibilities.

Don’t wait, this is the most important thing you can do for yourself, both to have a baby but even more importantly, because you deserve to feel better and start living the life you want NOW.

Scrolling for implantation symptoms?

Scrolling for implantation symptoms?

Takeaways from my symptom-spotting experience

I had this “Memory” pop up on social media. It was a picture of my husband and me and some friends away for a weekend in Lake Placid, snowshoeing and X-country skiing. There are a couple of things that are difficult to tell from the genuine smile on my face in the photos:

  1. The temperature was literally -10 degrees, and 

  2. I was about 8 weeks pregnant with my first daughter, after having experienced two pregnancy losses in the prior year.

This “Memory” really struck me. Choosing to spend the weekend outdoors in freezing temperatures is not for the faint of heart anyway...but when 8 weeks pregnant after 2 losses that occurred around that same gestational stage? 

WTH, I thought? What could I possibly have been thinking?? 

And then I remembered:

I had decided I was going to take my life back. That I was going to do everything needed to help myself believe I was as capable as anyone else of growing and nurturing new life. 

I had missed out on some fun outings with friends that prior year when we were TTC, for fear I’d miss my ovulation window or negatively impact a new pregnancy. It didn’t work, and worse, it didn’t feel good. I felt like TTC was ruling my life.

So instead, I gave myself permission to do what I felt. I didn’t stop tracking my cycle, but I only paid attention to it closely when it was around O time and then once I felt like I had done what I could to give myself the best shot that month, I let it go.

Otherwise, I decided to try out giving myself the best shot BY LIVING MY LIFE and seeking out what makes me feel content and happy.

And it worked. That’s how I knew it was okay to go snowshoeing and X-country skiing in frigid temps – I was connected with myself enough I could hear what served me. 

And my first daughter was born 7 months after that super fun trip.

You can try it right this moment – what have you been putting off, limiting or not allowing yourself? What do you want to give yourself permission to grab hold of?

This is what we’ll be doing in my Conception Accelerator Group Coaching program starting April 10. If you want to learn how with my support, visit the Group Coaching page now.

Scrolling for early pregnancy symptoms to watch out for? Try this.

Scrolling for early pregnancy symptoms to watch out for?

Most women who are trying to conceive get caught in a perpetual loop of trying to fix what might be wrong. Trying to figure out why it hasn’t happened yet.

When you’re focused on fixing, you’re focused on something being wrong. Which might be helpful IF there is in fact something wrong. But otherwise it simply keeps you stuck in the energy of not having what you want. 

Try this instead:  

  1. Say to yourself “If there’s more I need to do/know about whether I’m pregnant or how to get pregnant asap, it will become apparent. I don’t need to try harder to fix things or know before my body is ready to tell me. I can trust myself to know.”

  2. Grab your journal or a piece of paper and write down 5 things you’re looking forward to about being a mom. 

  3. For each, spend a moment identify the FEELING you’ll experience when that thing you’re looking forward to actually happens

  4. Notice where you feel that emotion in your body, what it feels like to experience what you’re looking forward to about motherhood.

  5. Soak in that feeling, and set the intention to return to it when you noice your mind start looping again (eventually it will get easier, I promise).

If your mind jumps in and says “DANGER! Don’t get your hopes up!”, lovingly thank it for trying to protect you from disappointment and see if you can allow the possibility.

Your future results depend on your current thoughts and feelings. By choosing to participate in the thoughts and feelings you’re going for, you connect yourself to those results. 

If you try this, let me know in the comments how it goes. No judgment, just love and compassion. It takes practice, but you are worth it.

Your likelihood of conceiving in the next 8 weeks increases exponentially when you learn to listen within for the answers you need

Your likelihood of conceiving in the next 8 weeks increases exponentially when you learn to listen within for the answers you need

Learn how, with my support

It took me LOTS of trial and error, time, energy and resources to figure out what actually works, the things people don’t tell you, when you’re trying to conceive. That’s why I first opened KindNest 6 years ago, to help make the process simpler for others.

The first day, I brought my then 2 year old daughter to daycare and when I got back to my car I had a VM from a woman who had heard through the grapevine about the work I was doing.

Like many of us, she was successful in her career and life overall and when she got married the year before she had A PLAN - a timeline in her head as to when she’d have a baby. ⏰ As the months passed, her anxiety level climbed.

So we chatted, she signed up for my program and got started right away. When she got her period that month she was like “great, this doesn’t work, just like nothing else has worked…” and she started exploring fertility treatments and scheduled an IUI for the following month as she continued my program. She called me in tears after her mid cycle checkup revealed she had already ovulated and the treatment she had planned would be pushed out another month.

BUT THEN

💥To her surprise, 2 weeks later, she got her positive pregnancy test! By New Years, she was a mom.

When this happened, I knew I was onto something. If this framework worked for Darcie and me, how many others might it help?

Now I’ve watched women after woman become pregnant in 8 WEEKS OR LESS, whether they’ve been at it for months or years, are “advanced maternal age”, in the midst of fertility treatment or already gave up on it, experienced loss(es), baffled by diagnoses…. everything you can think of, this program has empowered those who have utilized it to become pregnant in less than 8 weeks.

When I was first doing this, it was based on my own education, research and experience. Now, after working with so many others over the last 6 years, I’ve gotten so much feedback and intel, I’ve been able to make it even MORE perfect, narrowing it down to the exact steps that work, time and again.

And that’s what I want to share with you.

🤰🏽Are you next?

Schedule a free Conception Strategy Session today!

Scrolling to distract yourself during the dreaded two-week-wait?

Are you scrolling to distract yourself during the dreaded two-week-wait?

Try This Instead

Grab a piece of paper and Draw a line down the middle. 

  • On the left, write down 5 negative things your mind is saying about not being pregnant yet (it’s taking too long, it’s never going to happen, my friends are going to move on without me, I should have been pregnant by now, I’m getting too old…). 

Then…

  • On the right, write down all 5 positives of not being pregnant yet (I get to sleep in on the weekends, I can make spontaneous plans without needing a babysitter, I’m not going to xyz after having waited and hoped for so long…). If needed, flip some of your negatives to see their silver linings.

Finally…

  • Notice how you feel.

This isn’t about trying to ignore feeling the things on the left side of the paper. Often, by acknowledging the positives, the negatives have less weight. That’s all. Wouldn’t it be nice to carry a little less weight as you wait this month?

Try it and let me know in the comments what you notice.

Unlocking Your Path to Motherhood: A Healing Approach to Fertility and Motherhood

Unlocking Your Path to Motherhood

A Healing Approach to Fertility and Motherhood

In the whirlwind journey of trying to conceive, it's not uncommon to feel like everyone around you is progressing, leaving you behind in a sea of ovulation sticks, fertility supplements, and the infinite scroll search for a magic solution on social media. That’s where Inner Alignment comes in:  it’s for women who want more than anything to believe it's all going to work out, who yearn to relax, trust their bodies, let go of control, and unlock their innate ability to have a healthy baby so they can finally become a member of the mom club.

The Daily Struggle

For many individuals on the path to motherhood, the daily routine is a meticulous dance between fertility tracking, work commitments, self-care rituals, and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with it. The pressure to conceive can cast a heavy shadow, affecting not only your physical health but also your mental and emotional well-being. The constant comparison with others who seem to effortlessly achieve what you desire can be disheartening and rage-inducing, leaving you feeling lost and ashamed.

The Deeper Issue

Stressing about when you'll conceive and trying to expedite the process is, at its root, often about a deeper issue. The weight you've been carrying for years—this sense that you must work extra hard to attain what you want, or that you’re alone and need to put on a happy face for others—is being confirmed by the daily struggle to conceive. This fertility journey becomes a tangible representation of themes that have been persistent throughout your life.

Making Peace with the Past

Enter Inner Alignment Coaching, a transformative program that guides clients to, once and for all, make peace with their past. This crucial step opens the door to conceiving and carrying to term with ease and confidence. The program recognizes that the emotional baggage we carry often manifests physically, impacting fertility and overall well-being. By addressing and releasing these emotional blocks, Inner Alignment Coaching offers a pathway to a more harmonious and balanced life.

My Inner Alignment Coaching program is designed for those who yearn for more than just a checklist of endless fertility-boosting activities. It's for individuals who want more than anything to believe it’s all going to work out, so they can relax and trust their body, let go of control, have a healthy baby and become a member of the mom club.

What Inner Alignment Coaching Offers:

1. A Calm Nervous System:

  • Learn simple techniques to signal to your body that now is the optimal time for conception and nurturing new life.

  • Recognize and manage triggers to create a safe space for conception and pregnancy, regardless of external stressors.

2. Clarity Around Your Vision and Emotions:

  • Define and connect with your unique vision and the emotions tied to motherhood.

  • Practice aligning with these feelings in your everyday life, fostering a positive mindset and genuine belief it’s going to happen for you.

3. Making Peace with Your Past:

  • Identify and clear energy blocks that hinder your fertility.

  • Implement practical tools and strategies to let go of emotional baggage, creating space for new possibilities.

Conclusion

If you're ready to break free from the cycle of stress and uncertainty and truly believe it’s all going to work out, so you can relax and trust you body, Inner Alignment Coaching is the essential missing piece. Embrace a holistic approach to fertility, clear the path to motherhood, and surround yourself with support that understands your unique journey. Your dreams of conceiving, carrying a healthy baby, and joining the mom club can become a reality with Inner Alignment Coaching. It's time to align your inner self with the future you desire and I’m here to show you how.

Creating a Baby Registry Amidst Pregnancy Uncertainties

Creating a Baby Registry Amidst Pregnancy Uncertainties

The delicate balance of preparing for a baby when you’re feeling anxious

Introduction:

Bringing a child into the world is a monumental journey, and for those who have faced the trials of infertility or a tumultuous path to pregnancy, the excitement can be tempered by fear. The superstition of jinxing the pregnancy outcome can cast a shadow on celebratory moments, such as creating a baby registry. However, there comes a point when embracing the potential for a positive outcome outweighs these fears. In this article, we'll explore the delicate balance of preparing for a baby while navigating the uncertainties that may accompany pregnancy.

Essentials for Minimalist Preparation:

It can help to begin by understanding that babies don't require an abundance of possessions or need many of the products on the market today. For those who prefer a more minimalist approach, focusing on gathering the essentials is key. Here's a list to consider:

  • Transportation:

    • A properly installed car seat is required by law for the journey home from a hospital or birthing center

  • Diapering:

    • Diapers and wipes

    • Changing pad

    • Diaper rash cream

  • Hygiene:

    • Burp cloths and bibs

    • Baby soap and tub

    • Soft towels and washcloths

    • Baby nail clippers

    • Thermometer

  • Sleep:

    • Bassinet, co-sleeper, or crib

    • Swaddle blankets (multi-functional for nursing covers, burp cloths, and changing mats)

    • Comfortable onesies and sleepers

  • Nourishment:

    • Nursing bras, shirts and pads (if planning to nurse)

    • Bottles, formula, brush, and drying rack (if not planning to nurse)

Considerations for Non-Essentials:

While focusing on the basics is a practical approach, some non-essential items can enhance convenience and comfort for both you and them in the early days and weeks of your newborn's life. These can also be great for group purchases to ease the financial burden. Keep in mind that those who love you are likely to buy you gifts regardless and choosing these items yourself minimizes the risk of receiving things that may not align with your preferences or style. Consider:

  • Baby monitor

  • Diaper pail or bin

  • Pump and nursing support pillow (if applicable)

  • Sound machine

  • Portable diaper changing mat

  • Swing, rocker, or bouncer for moments when you need hands-free time

  • Wearable carrier like a Boba wrap

  • Stroller

  • High chair

  • Sleep sacks and swaddle blankets

  • Mattress, mattress protectors, and multiple sets of sheets 

  • Car seat cover (for colder climates)

A note on Building Your Support Team:

As you prepare for the arrival of your little one, consider expanding your support team beyond material possessions. These experts can provide invaluable assistance during the transition to parenthood:

  • Doula:

A doula offers emotional and physical support during pregnancy, labor, and postpartum. Their expertise can contribute to a more positive birthing and early postpartum experience.

  • Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist (PT):

Postpartum pelvic floor PT can aid in the recovery of pelvic muscles, offering support for issues that may arise after childbirth, such as incontinence or discomfort.

  • Sleep Consultant:

Sleep consultants specialize in helping parents establish healthy sleep routines for their infants. Their guidance can be particularly beneficial for exhausted parents navigating the challenges of sleep deprivation.

  • Lactation Consultant (if planning to breast/chestfeed):

A lactation consultant provides expert advice and support for nursing. Whether you're a first-time parent or facing specific challenges, their knowledge can be instrumental in ensuring a successful breast/chest-feeding journey.

In embracing not only the material aspects but also the supportive network around you, you can approach parenthood with a more comprehensive and prepared mindset. It’s not just about things; it's about building a foundation of support for the incredible journey ahead.

Conclusion:

Creating a baby registry is a personal step in preparing for parenthood. While the fear of jinxing the pregnancy outcome is valid, it's crucial to find a balance between cautious optimism and practical preparation. By focusing on the essentials and considering non-essentials that align with your lifestyle, you can create a registry that reflects your needs while embracing the journey ahead. No matter what you decide, you’ll be just fine because what your baby really needs is love. And it’s crystal clear simply by virtue of the fact you’re reading this: there is no shortage of love waiting for them within you.

New Horizons for KindNest in 2024 

ANNOUNCEMENT:  New Horizons for KindNest in 2024 

Embracing Change and New Beginnings

Introduction: 

David Bowie once said, "Discipline doesn't mean that you have breakfast at eight o'clock in the morning and you're out of the house by half past eight. Discipline is if you conceive something, decide whether or not it's worth following through, and if it is… you follow it through to its logical conclusion, to the best of your ability. That's discipline." You may have heard me reference this quote before. It’s because these words reflect what I set out to do through KindNest – follow the vision I conceived, of providing support to women and couples, to its logical conclusion. 

As such, KindNest, as a place of solace, support and empowerment for women and couples, has embodied this philosophy throughout its existence thus far. As I look back on the incredible journey that has unfolded in what will soon be 5 years since we opened doors, I recognize that sometimes, following an idea through to its logical conclusion leads to unexpected and transformative new beginnings. Such a new beginning is on the horizon for KindNest come January of 2024.

The Vision Unfolds: 

KindNest was born from a deep desire to provide solace and support to those who have experienced the profound grief of pregnancy loss. It began with my personal experience over a decade ago now, with the realization of how common pregnancy loss is and a need for more support, and quickly expanded in subsequent years to encompass holistic support for various stages of life, from fertility and pregnancy to parenting.

At its inception, I envisioned my role as merely the person bringing together the resources and expertise of others, as the one running the business. However, life had other plans. My path lead me to become a life coach and energetic healer, and I soon discovered that this one-on-one work would be the most impactful and rewarding aspects of my role as Founder, both financially as it relates to keeping the doors open and lights on, as well as emotionally and energetically, by influencing the balance of peace and suffering within individuals.

Five Years in the Making: 

2024 will mark five years since I embarked on this journey of having a brick-and-mortar location, constantly seeking the best way to work with clients individually while also running a community space. The global pandemic provided a unique opportunity to learn that the vast majority of individual clients prefer to work together remotely, leading to a pivotal realization I’m now embracing: I no longer require all the physical space I initially envisioned.

A Bittersweet Farewell: 

The time has come to acknowledge that KindNest, as a brick-and-mortar community space, has reached its logical conclusion. This decision has not been easy, and my emotions have run high. Still, I am confident it's the right choice. I grapple with feelings of failure alongside a sense of letting down those who believed and invested in the original vision of KindNest, but it doesn't change the fact that despite my best efforts, under my direction the community space has not flourished in the way I once envisioned.

The Good News: 

There is light at the end of this tunnel. KindNest is not going away; instead, it is evolving. As of January 2024, the community space at 1 Rosell Drive will thrive under the capable hands of Molly Conway of The Body WorkShop Physical Therapy, who has called KindNest home for the last two years. This change will allow me to channel my attention, energy, and resources toward growing KindNest as the coaching and energetic healing business that has had a profound impact on people's lives over the last five years.

A Look Back: 

As we bid farewell to this chapter, it’s important to acknowledge the achievements that have graced KindNest. The number of teachers who facilitated classes and workshops (numbering 32), practitioners who called KindNest home to their business (9), and clients who have been a part of this community (2,500+ and still counting) is a testament to the difference we have made. We have created a welcoming physical space, and nurtured a community that will continue to evolve and grow in its next iteration.

Gratitude: 

I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude to my family, clients, the community, and supporters who believed in this dream, as well as to The Body WorkShop for enabling the physical space to live on in a new way. While mixed emotions may linger, it's clear that it's time for a big change, making room for the next phase where KindNest can touch more lives more deeply.

What’s Next:

KindNest's evolution into a virtual realm brings forth exciting opportunities. I am thrilled to announce that I will continue offering my Inner Alignment Coaching program, which has touched the lives of many, empowering them to harness the innate power of their minds and bodies. This program is designed to help individuals make peace with their past and achieve their most elusive goals.

Here's a glimpse of what participants can expect from the Inner Alignment Coaching program:

  • Virtual Convenience: The entire program is accessible online, ensuring that participants can embark on this transformative journey from the comfort of their own space, anywhere across the country or around the world.

  • Weekly One-on-One Coaching: Participants have the opportunity for live one-on-one coaching sessions via Zoom, providing personalized guidance and support.

  • Weekly Reiki Sessions: Reiki is a powerful healing technique that helps realign energy and promote emotional well-being. The program includes weekly reiki sessions to enhance participants’ inner balance.

  • Comprehensive Curriculum: Participants gain access to a curriculum of recorded video lessons, offering valuable insights, education and guidance on their path to self-discovery and personal growth.

  • Guided Meditations and Practices: A library of guided meditations, practices, and guides is at participants’ disposal, to support a sustainable journey of self-empowerment.

  • Ongoing Support: Participants aren’t on this journey alone. I provide ongoing support via text to ensure that they feel guided and empowered throughout the experience.

The most foundational essentials of the program are also available via abbreviated online courses participants take at their own pace. This flexibility allows participants to tailor their experience to fit their unique schedule and needs.

For more in-depth information about the Inner Alignment Coaching program and to explore additional resources, visit our website at https://kind-nest.com.

You can stay connected with KindNest through our social media channels. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Pinterest @kindnestempowers to access regular updates, inspiration, and a sense of community.

If you're curious about how these programs may help you harness the power of your mind and body to heal the past and create a brighter future, I invite you to schedule a free 30-minute Discovery Call. During this call, we can chat about your goals and the potential for transformation that lies ahead. Your journey towards healing, empowerment and achievement of your most elusive goals starts here.

As KindNest continues to evolve and adapt, our commitment to supporting your growth and well-being remains steadfast. The future holds exciting opportunities, and I look forward to embarking on this next chapter with you.

Conclusion: 

In times of change and transformation, I find it helpful to remember that every ending is merely the beginning of something new. As we close the chapter of KindNest as a physical space at the conclusion of 2023, we open the doors to new possibilities. This transition is not the end, but a new and promising beginning, and I look forward to the journey ahead with hope, determination, and the discipline to follow this evolving vision to its logical conclusion.