It’s Okay to Dread Mother’s Day this Year
Yes it sucks that you were hoping to be pregnant by now and you’re not.
Yes it adds pressure that this holiday only comes around once a year.
Yes it’s hard to see others who have what you want (big belly +/or baby) being celebrated.
Yes there’s often a 2nd layer of shame, feeling like a jerk for being jealous of them.
Yes it’s compounded if you were pregnant and now you’re feeling empty rather than celebratory.
Dread comes in many forms.
Some related emotions include:
Shame
Abandonment
Helpless
Unworthy
Anxiety
Anger
Exhaustion
Don’t pressure yourself to feel something else. Mother’s Day isn’t the time to be looking for the silver lining. I realize that may be unpopular advice.
Some may tell you to search for the bright side. But I’m here to say STAY AND LOOK HERE. Notice this feeling. Follow it.
Follow it like a thread…
Is it possible this dread isn’t as much about whether or not you’re pregnant or a mom yet, as it is about something that happened in the past? It’s okay if you don’t even know what it is. This feeling of dread is giving you access to emotions that got stored up somewhere along the way. By feeling them now, you can resolve them for good (so you don’t have to keep experiencing them).
Are you open to doing that?
If so, all I want you to do is focus on the space of your heart as you continue allowing the thoughts and feelings that don’t feel good. Put a hand on your chest to help you focus there. That’s it.
Why? Without getting into the technical details, know that your heart is a powerful electromagnetic field generator (100K x more powerful than your mind). By focusing here, you are calling upon the natural power of your heart to filter out the gunk of the past as you are experiencing it now.
In my coaching program I teach specific techniques and practices but you can begin right here and now.
Bookmark this post and return to it each time something about Mother’s Day upsets you.
I’m not here to try and get you to think differently about Mother’s Day. Not being pregnant stinks. AND…
What if not being pregnant yet is giving you time to heal and become someone you’re going to be SO grateful you became before you became a mom?