Becoming My Own Student

I’m Going on an 8-Week Journey with My Own Inner Alignment Program…Want to Come Along?

(PLUS: An Exclusive Offer for You!)

Introduction

In a world filled with endless distractions and the hustle and bustle of daily life, it's easy to lose sight of ourselves and the path we want to tread. That's why I've decided to embark on a journey of participating in MY OWN Inner Alignment Program for the next 8 weeks, starting next week! I'm eager to share with you the details of this experience and will be including my insights, challenges, and breakthroughs as I become the participant in each facet of my own program.

Week 1: Calming the Nervous System - The Foundation

The first week of my journey focuses on the crucial foundation of inner alignment: calming the nervous system. In today's fast-paced world, it's all too easy to become overwhelmed, stressed, and disconnected from ourselves, and we coaches and healers are no exception! This week, I'll dive deep into Week 1 of my video curriculum and take actionable steps to find calm and balance within, so I can free up energy to use in subsequent weeks. I'll be sharing my experiences on my social media channels, so you can join me in grounding in.

Week 2: Gaining Clarity on Desires and Internal Motivators

In Week 2, I'll explore the concept of regaining clarity on what I desire most and uncovering the internal motivators that drive my most important external goals. This is where the true power of inner alignment begins to shine. By understanding my desires and motivations in this light, I can set meaningful heart-based goals as I head into 2024. I can begin to move my energy with purpose, by working to foster the internal state I desire, so I can naturally manifest externally. I'll be sharing my insights, challenges, and breakthroughs during this week, inviting you to reflect on your own desires and motivations.

Week 3: Clearing Energetic Interference and The Path to Alignment

Week 3 marks a crucial juncture. From this point forward, it’ll be time to address the energetic interference that stands in the way of my desires. I'll explore various practices from Weeks 3 through 8, designed to clear these blockages, allowing me to realign with my aspirations. Expect to hear about my experiences with these practices as I utilize them to clear the energetic interference.

Why Inner Alignment Matters

Inner alignment is not just a trendy concept but essential to embodying an intentional life. When we actively clear the interference of past experiences and align with what we want, we can handle whatever life throws at us and thrive. It’s all part of the journey and feels more like an interesting scavenger hunt as opposed to an endless maze! It's the key to unlocking our potential — closing old wounds from the past and aligning with the feelings we want most to experience — in order to achieve our dreams. By sharing my journey, I’d love to inspire you to take the next step towards your own heart’s desires as well.

Conclusion

As I prepare to start my 8-week program, I'm eager to delve into the three essential components necessary for embodying my inner alignment: calming my nervous system, gaining clarity on my desires and motivations, and clearing my energetic interference. By participating in this program, I the coach will again become the student, and I aim to reemerge as a more fully aligned, authentic, and fulfilled version of myself, one who’s ready have more impact on the balance of peace and suffering in the world in 2024.

Stay tuned for my updates and reflections. You can join me on social media as I share candidly about my experience, as we explore the transformative power of inner alignment together.

An Exclusive Offer for YOU

If you’re reading this and thinking “hmm…I’d love to do something like that too…”, below I’ve included an exclusive opportunity to jumpstart your own inner alignment.

As you know if you’ve been following me, my Inner Alignment program is typically an 8-week intensive where I provide a roadmap to help you achieve your most elusive goals by taking simple steps in minutes/day. I show you how your energy is already shaping your reality and guide you through simple techniques to harness this power effectively. 

Now, for a limited time, you too can take action today to set yourself up for 2024, as I am offering exclusive access to a new, unique way of accessing my support (just for blog readers)! 

Understanding the Inner Alignment Process

Manifestation, in its essence, is about intentionally creating what we want in life. Whether it's healing emotional wounds, manifesting tangible desires like a baby, a fulfilling relationship, or career success, it all becomes achievable when we understand the "how." My Inner Alignment program is designed to make this process accessible and actionable, through 3 distinct steps:

1. Calming your nervous system

2. Clarity on internal motivator(s) for your external goal(s)

3. Clearing energetic interference

My program includes a step-by-step roadmap to implement all 3 over the course of 8 weeks. 

BUT right now, for a limited time, I am offering the opportunity for you to hone in on THE one area that’s the biggest challenge for you, in a Jumpstart session.

Here's a breakdown of the options:

1. nervous system Regulation jumpstart

The first step in the Inner Alignment journey is to calm your nervous system. Without a calm nervous system, all your efforts in other areas will be less effective. In a Nervous System Regulation Jumpstart session (60-minute virtual session, $150), I provide strategies tailored to your unique energetics and circumstances. The techniques you learn in this session will help you respond rather than react, think clearly, and feel better. Pre-work is required to make the most of this session.

2. magnetizing your desires jumpstart

Maybe your nervous system is in check but you could use help on the second step, connecting with your internal motivator for your external desires. Manifestation is not just about external goals; what unlocks your ability to manifest is identifying the core desires and feelings that drive those goals. For instance, if your goal is to heal from grief, you need to envision what it would look and feel like once that grief is integrated into the story of your life. This is where you need to shift your focus. In my Magnetizing Your Desires Jumpstart session (60-minute virtual session, $150), I’ll guide you through this process by refining your Heart's Desire(s) and uncovering your internal motivator(s). I’ll help you identify the desired feelings and scenarios to practice. Homework assignments are designed to solidify these concepts.

3. making peace jumpstart

Perhaps you know exactly what you want and why, but you’re stumped in getting there, feeling like you’ve already tried everything. This is what I see most! The vast majority of us minimize the impact of our past experiences, which create interference in our ability to align our energy effectively with what we want. Unprocessed energy stored in the body will continue to affect us until we process and release it. In my Making Peace Jumpstart session (60-minute virtual session, $150), we’ll explore how energy works and what creates interference for YOU. We’ll delve into one of your biggest barriers or triggers, and through simple energetic practices I’ll help you release unprocessed energy from the past. Homework assignments focus on continuing the practices introduced and increasing awareness of limiting beliefs to make sustainable change.

Summary

Manifestation doesn't have to be a daunting or mystifying process. It's about understanding your inner energy and aligning it with your goals and desires. Inner Alignment offers a structured approach to help you achieve the life you want. By calming your nervous system, uncovering your internal motivators, and clearing interference from the past, you'll be well on your way to manifesting your dreams.

I’m offering exclusive access to these Jumpstart sessions to Aligned + Well Blog readers, for a limited time. Whether you're stressed, struggling to manifest your desires, or haunted by the past, Inner Alignment can provide the guidance and tools you need to create the life you've always wanted. 

You can book now for 2024 (we all know it’ll be here before we know it!) and set yourself up so it’s the year you see your dreams to reality. HINT: Use your flexible spending account debit card for payment when you book, so you can use up those FSA dollars before they disappear!

Not sure which option is right for you? Book a free chat with me and I’ll help you determine the best path forward.

Finding Courage to Stay Open When Bad Things Happen

Finding Courage to Stay Open When Bad Things Happen: Balancing the Risks of Control with the Rewards of Freedom

Introduction

Life is unpredictable, and despite our best efforts, bad things can and do happen. This week I found myself grappling with a vast array of emotions following the abduction and subsequent safe return of a young girl in our close-knit community. Whether it’s the possibility of a school shooting, abduction, or another unspeakable tragedy, our society and media are rife these days with worst-case scenarios for us to ponder. 

While my immediate mama-bear reaction may be to put my kids in a bubble to keep them safe forever, I know that’s not the answer, nor possible. Statistically speaking, the likelihood of these horrific occurrences is so small, unlike the impact of a hyper-controlled life ruled by fear, the implications of which are vast. I’ve been listening inwardly to understand my own threshold of control vs. freedom, trying to come to terms with how to find balance.

In this blog post, we’ll explore considerations for consciously choosing to stay open when bad things happen, making peace with the inevitable uncertainties of life, and striking a balance between freedom and control. Whether you're a parent worrying about your child's safety, an individual navigating the twists and turns of life, or both, one thing is certain: you can't protect yourself or your loved ones from every possible danger. Risk is an inherent part of being human, and it's how we make peace within ourselves with these risks that truly matters. 

The Perils of Constricting Control and Inherent Risk

Considerations:

1. Accepting the Inherent Risk of Being Human

Perhaps it’s obvious – the first step towards staying open when bad things happen is acknowledging and accepting that risk is an inherent part of being human. We cannot protect ourselves or our loved ones from every possible danger. Life is full of uncertainties, and trying to control every aspect of it is not only impossible but can also lead to pervasive anxiety and stress. 

2. Understanding Your Comfort Threshold

Getting to know your own risk comfort threshold is important. Each of us has a different level of tolerance for risk and uncertainty. Some people are naturally more cautious, while others are more adventurous. Don't try to conform to someone else's idea of what is safe or acceptable; instead, honor your own instincts and boundaries. Are you able to embrace the potential downside of a risk for the potential upside of the reward? It may help to ask yourself honestly – if the worst case scenario were to occur, could I forgive myself knowing I did the best I could to avoid it, that I chose to embrace living daily life openly and without fear?

3. Planning for the Worst, Hoping for the Best

Since it’s impossible to shield ourselves completely from every danger, it's wise to plan for and discuss worst-case scenarios, at an age-appropriate level of detail. Discuss contingency plans so you feel you’ve done your best. These discussions can give us a sense of control and security. By preparing for these situations, you can feel like you've done the best you can to protect yourself and your loved ones.

4. Avoiding Unnecessary Exposure to Risk

While it's crucial to embrace the unpredictability of life, it's also important to act mindfully to avoid unnecessary exposure to risk. Make informed decisions and take precautions when necessary. For instance, you might advise your child to remain close to you in public or make it a rule that they travel in groups. This approach allows you to strike a mindful balance between embracing the adventure of being out and about while taking the necessary steps to protect yourself or your family from potential harm. 

5. The Limits of Constricting Control

Constricting control, driven by fear, limits the possibilities of growth, joy, and adventure that humans are here to experience. When we tightly grip the reins of our lives or the lives of those around us, we inadvertently stifle the very essence of what it means to be alive. We become trapped in a narrow corridor of existence, missing out on the vast expanse of opportunities that life presents.

EMBRACING FREEDOM AND OPENNESS

CONSIDERATIONS

1. Embracing the Freedom of Growth

True growth often occurs beyond the boundaries of our comfort zones. It's in those uncharted territories of life where we discover our strengths, learn invaluable lessons, and experience moments of profound joy and adventure. By embracing freedom over constricting control, we open ourselves up to a world of possibilities.

2. The Joy of Unpredictability

Life's unpredictability is often what makes it so beautiful. Think about the moments in your life that have brought the most joy and fulfillment. Chances are, many were unexpected, spontaneous, and beyond your control. By relinquishing excessive control and allowing room for spontaneity, you invite more of these joyful moments into life. 

3. Adventure as a Path to Self-Discovery

Adventure is not just about exploring far-off places; it's also about exploring the depths of your own being. When you release the grip of control, you invite adventure into your life in various forms. Adventure fosters personal growth, resilience, and a deeper connection to the world around you. This is traded when control and fear take hold.

4. The Essence of Being Human

As humans, we are inherently curious beings. We are here to experience the richness of life in all its facets, from the mundane to the extraordinary. Constricting control may offer a false sense of security, but it robs us of the authentic human experience—an experience that is meant to be filled with exploration, connection, growth, and the unbridled joy of embracing the unknown.

5. Energetic Alignment

Acknowledging the role of energetic alignment in our lives is crucial. Everything happens energetically before it happens physically. A mind focused on control often begets fear-inducing experiences, while a mind focused on love and openness begets love-inspiring ones. Consciously choosing a perspective of openness and love can lead to a more positive and open-minded life, enabling you to openly embrace the spectrum of experiences available in the world.

A Note on Silver Linings

One of the most profound aspects of dealing with adversity and difficult situations is the possibility of silver linings, even in the most challenging circumstances. When we face distressing events, it's natural to want to understand the "why," but sometimes, that answer may never come. However, we can choose to focus on the possibility of positive outcomes and lessons that may emerge from such experiences:

1. Building Community: Tragic events often bring communities together in a remarkable way. People rally to support each other, offer help, and show solidarity. The sense of unity and collective strength that arises from adversity can be a powerful force for good.

2. Preventing Future Tragedies: The experience of one ordeal may serve as a deterrent to potential predators lurking in the wings. When they see the community's determination to protect its members and the consequences faced by those who commit such crimes, it may make them think twice before acting on their harmful intentions.

3. Rediscovering Joy: In the midst of despair, the return of a missing person, safe and sound, can be a cause for immense joy and celebration. It reminds us that, even in the darkest moments, there is room for hope, happiness, community and positive surprises.

4. Learning for the Future: Investigations into incidents with happy endings can provide invaluable insights for law enforcement and organizations working to prevent abductions, find missing children or otherwise. Analyzing the details of how these crimes are carried out can lead to improved strategies and better outcomes for future or open cases.

Conclusion

Staying open when bad things happen is a delicate dance between freedom and control, fear and love. It requires understanding your comfort threshold, planning for the worst while remaining focused on the best, and making a conscious choice to align with openness and possibility for the value of what it brings to life. 

While we can't control every outcome and we may never fully understand the reasons behind tragic events, we can choose how to respond and how life experience shapes us. We can focus on the best actions we can take to remain safe without excessive control, so we may embrace the full spectrum of human emotions, from the depths of despair to the thrill of adventure and the deep well of joy that can spring from living with an open heart. Ultimately, by choosing freedom and love over fear and control, we not only honor the essence of being human but also unlock the boundless potential for growth, joy, and adventure that this unique journey offers.

Liberating Yourself from Past Pain: The Power of Processing Old Energy

Introduction

Life can be challenging, and we all carry emotional baggage from our past experiences. Whether it's from a difficult relationship, past traumas, or even a toxic family dynamic, these emotional wounds can linger and affect our well-being and ability to achieve our goals. From an inner alignment perspective, the answer lies in a transformative process that involves understanding and processing old energy stored in your body. In this article, we'll explore the concept of processing old energy and how it can liberate you from the weight of past pain, allowing you to respond rather than react to life's challenges.

Understanding Old Energy

Old energy refers to the emotional residue that accumulates within us over time due to painful or traumatic experiences. These emotions can include anger, sadness, resentment, and fear. Much like a storage system in our bodies and minds, this old energy can shape our reactions to similar situations, often without us even realizing it. This keeps us feeling stuck, like we are at the mercy of the external circumstances, needing them to change in order to feel better. In fact, the opposite is true – by processing the old energy you embrace your innate ability to heal, flow with the ups and downs of life, and thrive.

The Process of Letting Go

• Acknowledgment and Validation: The first step in processing old energy is acknowledging the emotions tied to past experiences. You don’t need to remember the exact circumstances or details, it’s enough to recognize “this feels old” and just sit with it in the moment. It's helpful to validate your own feelings and understand that it's entirely normal to be affected by past pain.

• Allowing the Feelings: To let go of the old energy, it needs to be felt and honored so it can be processed rather than repressed. The beautiful thing is that this can take place any time, no matter how old the wounds are. Sometimes sitting and allowing the feelings is enough. Since it’s important for the mind to not to get wrapped up in analysis, judgment or the old story though, specific strategies and steps may need to be taken to enable it to be fully processed.

• Seeking Support and Guidance: Healing often requires support from trusted individuals or professionals, such as therapists, coaches or healers. They can provide you with the tools and guidance needed to navigate your emotions and further the healing process. (Tip: Strategies and techniques for releasing old energy are taught in my Inner Alignment Coaching program.)

The Transformation

As you work on processing old energy, you'll begin to notice significant transformations in your life:

• Freedom from Triggers: Processing old energy allows you to detach from past triggers. Similar circumstances and people who once provoked intense reactions in you will no longer have the same power over your emotions. It’s not that you’ll forget what happened in the past; it simply won't have the power over you it does now, because those experiences will be integrated into the story of your life, rather than stopping you in your tracks each time they are recalled or reoccur.

• Increased Emotional Resilience: You'll develop emotional resilience, enabling you to respond thoughtfully and intentionally rather than react impulsively to challenging situations. This newfound strength empowers you to make choices that serve your well-being and goals.

• Embracing Positive Change: With the burden of old energy lifted, you'll experience positive change in your life and renewed capacity to achieve your dreams. You can set healthier boundaries, cultivate more fulfilling relationships, and pursue your goals with confidence.

• Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself during this journey. Healing is not a linear path, and it's okay to have “setbacks”. Those I’ve guided to process old wounds through Inner Alignment Coaching often ask me “what if I go back to my old ways now that I’ve completed the program??” To this my answer is always the same – it would be impossible for you to go back without trying really hard! Once the old energy is processed, it’s no longer there to cause you to react in old ways. All that’s required to move forward is staying connected with yourself, so you can choose what serves you as you navigate life. Practicing self-compassion can help you stay on track and maintain a mindset that’s aligned with the future you desire.

Conclusion

Processing old energy is a transformative journey that empowers you to break free from the shackles of past pain. It allows you to respond rather than react to life's challenges, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and liberated existence. Remember, healing takes time and patience, but the rewards are immeasurable. By embarking on this journey, you can take control of your emotional well-being and create a brighter, more empowered future.

Feelings Fuel Transformation: The Power of Inner Alignment

Introduction

How have you been feeling lately? I mean, really feeling? It's a question we often brush off with a quick "I'm fine" or a forced smile, but it's a question that holds the key to unlocking the life you truly desire. You see, the way you feel right now is a powerful indicator of what you'll manifest in the future. It's the energy you emit into the universe, and understanding this concept can change your life in profound ways.

In this article, we're going to delve into the importance of recognizing and aligning your feelings with your desires and how it can lead to transformation. I’ll also introduce a three-pronged approach you can utilize to help you take intentional action and create the life you've always wanted.

The Power of Feelings

Emotions are the language of the body. They are the compass that guides us through life. Yet, so often, we suppress or ignore our true feelings, fearing the discomfort they may bring. We put on masks and deny our emotions, thinking we're protecting ourselves. But in reality, we're only perpetuating the patterns we wish to break free from.

The truth is, you will continue to manifest more of what you currently feel until you take deliberate steps to disrupt these existing patterns. Your reality today is a direct product of your past thoughts and feelings. So, if you want to change your reality, you must begin by changing how you feel.

Cultivating What You Desire

Cultivating the feelings you desire in your life may seem like a complex task, but it's simpler than you might think. It all starts with awareness and intention. 

• Self-Awareness: The first step is to become acutely aware of your current emotional state. Are you feeling joyful, anxious, or perhaps a sense of emptiness? This self-reflection is crucial because it allows you to acknowledge your true feelings, even if they are uncomfortable, and from there you can take intentional action.

• Intentional Action: Once you've identified your feelings, it's time to take intentional action to shift them. This might involve practices like mindfulness, meditation, journaling, or seeking professional help through one of my online courses or individualized one-on-one coaching. The goal is to replace negative or limiting feelings with positive and empowering ones.

• Accountability and Transformation: The journey to inner alignment requires effort and consistency. Holding yourself accountable to your transformation process is essential. This is where a structured program can make a significant difference. It provides you with the guidance and support you need to stay on track and make real progress.

The Inner Alignment Program

If you're ready to embrace a life filled with the feelings you desire and manifest your dreams, my Inner Alignment program is here to help. This program is designed for renegades like you, who are ready to break free from the constraints of past experiences and the expectations of others. It empowers you to live authentically from your heart and embrace the life you truly want.

Through the Inner Alignment program, you will:

• Learn to give yourself permission to acknowledge and make peace with your past, allowing you to move forward with a clean slate.

• Discover the power of energetic alignment, which is the key to unlocking your potential to have it all, whether it's improved well-being, family growth, healing, or achieving your most elusive goals.

• Receive guidance, support, tools and accountability on your journey towards inner alignment, so you never have to feel alone in your transformation process.

Conclusion

In conclusion, the way you feel is a potent force that shapes your life. By recognizing and aligning with your true feelings, you can break free from old patterns and manifest the life you've always wanted. My Inner Alignment program offers you the tools and support you need to embark on this transformative journey. So, ask yourself again, "How have you been feeling?" and consider taking the first step towards a life filled with the emotions and experiences you desire.

Cultivating a Positive Mindset and Manifesting Your Desires Through Meditation

Introduction:

In a world that often bombards us with negative news and challenges, cultivating a positive mindset has become an essential practice for maintaining our mental well-being. While the idea of positive thinking has gained popularity, it's important to understand that true positivity goes beyond just suppressing negative thoughts. In this article, we'll explore how meditation techniques can help you cultivate a genuine positive mindset and harness the power of manifestation to bring your desires to life.

The Pitfalls of Superficial Positivity:

At first glance, adopting a positive mindset might seem as simple as repeating affirmations or suppressing negative thoughts. However, true positivity involves more than just ignoring challenges and setbacks. A genuine positive mindset requires understanding and working with the full spectrum of emotions that make up the human experience. Suppressing negativity only leads to emotional stagnation and can prevent true growth and transformation.

The Role of Mindfulness Meditation:

Mindfulness meditation provides a powerful tool for cultivating a positive mindset that is rooted in authenticity and self-awareness. Rather than pushing away negative thoughts or feelings, mindfulness encourages you to observe them without judgment. By acknowledging and accepting your emotions, you create space for self-compassion and growth.

Starting with Breathwork:

Before diving into meditation, it's essential to calm your nervous system. Breathwork is a simple yet effective technique that can help you ground yourself and focus your attention. By taking slow and intentional breaths, you can create a sense of calm and presence, making it easier to engage in meditation practices.

Envisioning Your Desires:

Manifestation is about more than just wishing for things to happen; it involves harnessing the power of your thoughts and emotions to draw your desires toward you. To begin, clearly identify what you want to manifest and the specific emotions associated with it. Envision yourself experiencing your desires as if they are already part of your reality. This practice creates an energetic resonance that attracts your desires into your life.

The Neuroscience of Manifestation:

Neuroplasticity, the brain's ability to reorganize itself, plays a crucial role in manifestation. The neurons that fire together wire together, creating neural pathways that support your thoughts and emotions. By consistently practicing positive thoughts and emotions through meditation and manifestation techniques, you're rewiring your brain to align with your desires.

Overcoming Negative Thought Patterns:

Negative thought patterns can act as roadblocks to manifestation. Rather than ignoring or suppressing these patterns, embrace them with self-awareness. By acknowledging your negative thoughts and feelings, you can begin to untangle the underlying beliefs that hold you back. Meditation helps you create a mental space where you can reframe these beliefs and replace them with positive affirmations.

The Role of Energy Alignment:

Beyond surface-level positive thinking, energy alignment involves clearing old emotional baggage and aligning your energy with your desires. This process, often facilitated by techniques like Inner Alignment Coaching, allows you to release past experiences and beliefs that hinder your manifestations. As you clear out old energy, you create a fertile ground for your intentions to take root and flourish.

Conclusion:

Cultivating a positive mindset goes beyond mere optimism; it's about embracing the full range of human emotions and using them as stepping stones toward growth and transformation. Meditation, breathwork, and manifestation techniques provide a comprehensive approach to creating lasting change in your life. By harnessing the power of your thoughts, emotions, and energy, you can cultivate positivity from a place of authenticity and attract the life you truly desire.

Navigating Parenthood: Tips for Taking Care of Yourself

Becoming a parent is an incredible journey filled with joy, love, and growth. However, it is also a journey that comes with its fair share of challenges. One of the most significant challenges that new parents face is sleep deprivation. This lack of sleep can impact every aspect of your life and make adjusting to parenthood even more daunting. In this blog post, we will explore the challenges of being a new parent, discuss the importance of practicing self-care during this uncertain period, and provide strategies for managing stress, fatigue, and balancing parenthood with the rest of your life.

The Challenges of New Parenthood

Sleep Deprivation: Sleep deprivation is one of the most prominent challenges new parents face. The sudden disruption of sleep patterns due to feeding, diaper changes, or a colicky baby can leave you feeling exhausted and drained. The lack of sleep can impact your physical, emotional, and mental well-being, making it difficult to navigate daily tasks and responsibilities.

Routine and Schedule Changes: The arrival of a newborn brings about significant changes to your daily routine and schedule. The once-familiar patterns of your life are now replaced with the unpredictable demands of caring for your baby. Adjusting to these changes can be overwhelming and add to the stress of new parenthood.

Learning Curve: There's so much to learn when you become a parent – from feeding and diapering to understanding your baby's cues and needs. This steep learning curve can be intimidating and lead to feelings of uncertainty and self-doubt.

Heightened Awareness of Childhood Trauma or Dysfunction: Parenthood can trigger a heightened awareness of aspects of your own childhood that you want to avoid repeating. Whether you had a challenging childhood or not, the responsibility of caring for a new life can bring up unresolved emotions and fears related to your upbringing.

The Importance of Self-Care During Uncertainty

Taking care of yourself during this period of uncertainty is crucial. Just like the famous saying goes, "You cannot pour from an empty cup." Prioritizing self-care is not only beneficial for your well-being but also for your ability to care for your baby. By replenishing your own energy and well-being, you will be better equipped to handle the demands of parenthood.

Strategies for Coping with Stress and Anxiety

1. Practice Conscious Breathing: When stress and anxiety arise, take a moment to practice slow, deep breathing. This simple technique can be done in the midst of other activities and helps calm your nervous system and keep you grounded in the present moment.

2. Allocate Time for Yourself: Plan for small pockets of time each day dedicated solely to yourself. Engage in activities that bring you joy, whether it's reading, listening to music, or taking a short walk.

3. Seek Support: Reach out to friends, family, or support groups that understand your experience. Connecting with others who are or have been in a similar situation can provide validation and a sense of community.

4. Adjust Expectations: Recognize that your current circumstances are unique, and it's okay to adjust your expectations. Focus on what you can realistically achieve and be kind to yourself when things don't go as planned.

Managing Sleep and Fatigue

1. Recognize the Temporary Nature: Remind yourself that the sleep deprivation and fatigue you're experiencing are temporary. This mindset shift can help you cope better with the challenges of parenthood.

2. Prioritize Sleep: Sleep is essential for your well-being. Whenever possible, try to sleep when your baby sleeps or find opportunities for short naps or moments of rest throughout the day.

3. Get Support: Share the responsibilities with your partner if applicable, or hire a night doula part-time. Consider implementing strategies like alternating night feedings or diaper changes to ensure you get sufficient rest.

Balancing Parenthood with the Rest of Your Life

1. Extend, Don't Define: Embrace parenthood as an extension of your identity, not a definition. Continue engaging in activities that bring you happiness and make time for connections that nourish your soul.

2. Prioritize Interests: Identify hobbies, friends, and activities that align with your interests and passions. While you may have less time, incorporating these activities into your routine can help you maintain a sense of self.

Conclusion

Becoming a new parent is undoubtedly a life-altering experience, filled with both challenges and joys. While sleep deprivation, changes in routine, and the demands of parenthood can feel overwhelming, remember that you deserve to feel okay and that you're doing a great job. By practicing self-care, seeking support, and adjusting your expectations, you can navigate the uncertainties of parenthood while prioritizing your own well-being. Remember, you are not alone on this journey, and with the right strategies and mindset, you can thrive as a new parent while staying true to yourself. Check out some of the resources offered at KindNest, including our Finding Yourself as a Mom digital course and Coaching for Parenting and Self-care.

The Significance of Serenity: Establishing a Foundation for Conception and Pregnancy

The Significance of Serenity: Establishing a Foundation for Conception and Pregnancy

In our fast-paced and overstimulated world, finding moments of stillness and grounding is essential when you’re trying to conceive. By incorporating simple practices into our daily routines, we can regulate our nervous system, manage stress more effectively, and create a foundation for a more balanced and fulfilling life, including a growing family. In this blog post, we will explore the benefits of grounding ourselves, how it affects our bodies, and practical steps to incorporate this practice into our everyday lives, so you can conceive as soon as possible.

The Importance of Grounding

The more we engage with the chaotic nature of modern life, the more likely we are to become overstimulated and overwhelmed. Grounding ourselves provides a way to counteract this overstimulation and regain balance. Whether it's dedicating a few minutes of stillness at the beginning of each day or finding moments of pause throughout the day, grounding practices can have a profound impact on our well-being and chances of conceiving.

By starting our day with a regulated nervous system, we set ourselves up for success. We become more attuned to recognizing when stress begins to take hold, allowing us to intervene before it spirals out of control. Grounding practices act as anchors, enabling us to catch ourselves when we feel overwhelmed and guide ourselves back to a calmer state.

Wiring the Pathways to Resilience

Incorporating grounding practices into our daily routines is not just a temporary fix. It creates lasting changes in our physiological responses to stress. Just as learning any new skill requires effort initially, incorporating grounding practices into our lives also requires dedication and commitment. Over time, as we hold ourselves accountable and show up for ourselves consistently, we strengthen the neural networks associated with stress regulation. 

Furthermore, these practices affect the chemical receptors on our cells, creating a shift toward a more positive and regulated state. By consciously engaging in grounding exercises, we wire our brains and nervous systems to respond in healthier ways to stress. What starts as a deliberate effort eventually becomes an automatic and natural response, promoting a more balanced and regulated state of being. 

When we’re focused on getting pregnant we can sometimes over-analyze situations (e.g. to time intercourse, calculate DPO, symptom-spot, etc.) or become hyper-vigilant of our actions. These well-intended activities can create a sense of urgency, which creates stress. When we are under stress regularly, our bodies have a natural protective mechanism that prevents the addition of stressors, such as pregnancy. In other words, if we are consistently experiencing significant levels of stress, our bodies may delay or inhibit the process of conception to safeguard our overall well-being.

Getting Started with Grounding Practices

Incorporating grounding practices into our daily lives may seem daunting at first, but it is achievable with some simple steps. To begin, consider dedicating five minutes each morning before officially starting your day. During this time, find a quiet space where you can sit comfortably. Take slow, deep breaths, and extend your exhalation so it’s longer than your inhalation. Repeat this conscious breathing for 3-4 minutes to ground your nervous system.

Setting reminders on your phone or using time-management tools can help you stay accountable to this practice. If committing to daily grounding feels overwhelming, start with every other day or be gentle with yourself when you miss a session. The goal is to establish a routine that works for you, allows you to prioritize self-care, and most importantly, feels good.

In addition to the morning session, look for opportunities throughout the day to incorporate moments of stillness. Set a reminder on your phone to check in with yourself and practice a few minutes of conscious breathing. While finding a secluded space may be ideal, it's only sometimes practical. Instead, identify pockets of time when you can pause, even if it needs to be in the midst of your regular activities. These brief moments of grounding can have a tremendous impact on your overall well-being.

The Transformational Journey

When you embark on the journey of pregnancy and conception, and commit to taking care of yourself and embracing practices that promote grounding, you set yourself on a transformative path. At first, it may take effort and discipline to integrate these practices into your daily life. However, as you observe the positive impact they have on your overall well-being, a shift takes place. You naturally feel motivated to continue because you genuinely appreciate the benefits and recognize the significant difference they make in how you feel throughout the day, and on your journey toward pregnancy and conception.

Moving Forward After Pregnancy Loss: Navigating the Healing Process

Introduction:

Pregnancy loss is a topic that is often shrouded in silence and secrecy. Many individuals who have experienced this heartbreaking event find themselves grappling with grief and struggling to find a way to move forward. In this blog post, we will explore the importance of discussing pregnancy loss and provide insights on how to cope with the physical and emotional changes that follow such a loss.

Pregnancy loss is more common than people realize, with one in four pregnancies ending in loss. Until it happens to you, it's easy to underestimate just how prevalent it is. This lack of awareness can make the experience all the more isolating and bewildering. Many individuals begin to question what went wrong and blame themselves for the loss. This is why it is crucial to discuss pregnancy loss openly and honestly, not just with healthcare professionals but also with our family and friends.

By sharing our experiences, we break the silence and shed light on the reality of pregnancy loss. It helps create a support network and reminds those who have suffered a loss that they are not alone. Additionally, by discussing pregnancy loss, we can integrate it into the narrative of our lives and avoid carrying the weight of grief for years or even decades. Too often, individuals in their fifties or sixties express their regret that they did not have the necessary support when they were trying to grow their families. By openly discussing pregnancy loss, we can prevent it from interfering with our future health, well-being, and our ability to conceive again.

Types of Pregnancy Loss:

Now, let's delve into the different types of pregnancy loss. A loss before 20 weeks gestation is considered a miscarriage, while a loss after 20 weeks gestation is termed a stillbirth. The majority of miscarriages occur in the first trimester when the cells are dividing and forming. Some other terms you might come across are missed miscarriage, which refers to a situation where the pregnancy has stopped growing, but the body hasn't recognized it yet. Another type is an ectopic pregnancy, which occurs when the embryo grows outside the uterus, making it non-viable.

The grieving process following a pregnancy loss is unique to each individual. Research shows that the depth of grief is not determined by the number of weeks of pregnancy but rather by how much the pregnancy was wanted and the efforts made to conceive. The stages of grief, including denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, apply to pregnancy loss just as they do to any other form of loss. It's crucial to allow yourself to feel the emotions that arise during this process. Although it may be intimidating and overwhelming, acknowledging and processing these feelings is essential for healing.

Coping With Pregnancy Loss:

Coping with the physical and emotional changes after a miscarriage requires support and self-care. Sharing your experience with trusted individuals, both personally and professionally, can provide a sense of solace. However, it is important to select those who will genuinely support you rather than those who may unintentionally make it about themselves. Educating yourself about the physical and emotional aspects of pregnancy loss can also help you navigate this difficult time. It's important to give yourself permission to feel the emotions fully without getting stuck in them. Taking time to deliberately allow yourself to experience and process these emotions will aid in your healing journey.

Conclusion:

If you require additional help, there are various resources available. Support groups for pregnancy loss can be found online or through local healthcare providers. The Angel Names Association provides financial support to families dealing with the expenses of stillbirth. KindNest offers a Healing Essentials online course that includes practical and easy to implement strategies, including how to work with your body and mind to invite healing. Additionally, seeking professional guidance through counseling or coaching can offer personalized support during the healing process.

Moving forward after pregnancy loss is a deeply personal journey. Surrounding yourself with supportive individuals, allowing yourself to grieve, and seeking the help you need are crucial steps towards healing. Remember that there is no set timeline for healing, and it's essential to be patient and compassionate with yourself. Together, through open conversation and support, we can help individuals navigate the challenging path of pregnancy loss and find hope for the future.

Integrating Complementary Therapies for Fertility and Pregnancy: A Holistic Approach

Introduction:

When it comes to matters of fertility and pregnancy, we often focus primarily on the medical aspects, seeking guidance from obstetricians or medical doctors. While the physical aspect is undoubtedly important, it is equally crucial to recognize and address the energetic and emotional components that play a significant role in our overall well-being. In this blog post, we will explore the importance of balancing the physical and energetic aspects of our being and why incorporating complementary therapies can enhance our chances of conceiving and achieving our pregnancy goals.

Understanding the Energetic Component:

Our bodies are more than just the physical form we see; they are also composed of invisible energy. Thoughts, emotions, and energetic vibrations are all part of our being and can profoundly impact our health and fertility. Although some may dismiss these concepts as "woo-woo," it is vital to acknowledge the energetic aspect of our existence. By doing so, we can adopt a holistic approach that supports our overall well-being and increases our chances of conception.

The Wisdom of the Body:

Our bodies possess innate wisdom and intelligence. Under ideal circumstances, they know exactly what to do to maintain balance and facilitate conception. For instance, the release of an egg from the follicle occurs naturally without external intervention. However, external factors such as energetic interference can disrupt this natural wisdom. Stress, negative thoughts, worries, and fear can send signals to the body that now might not be the right time for conception, even if everything appears perfect from a medical standpoint.

The Role of Complementary Therapies:

Complementary therapies provide an avenue to address the energetic and non-physical components of our being. By incorporating these therapies alongside medical treatments, we can optimize our chances of conceiving and achieving our desired outcomes. Let's delve into some examples of complementary therapies that can help in this journey.

1. Reiki: Reiki is an energetic healing practice that works with the body's energetic systems, primarily the chakra system. Reiki practitioners channel healing energy to recipients, facilitating the release of energetic blockages and restoring balance. The practitioner does not need to identify specific blockages consciously, as Reiki itself intuitively guides the healing process.

2. Acupuncture: Acupuncture is an ancient Chinese therapy that involves the insertion of thin needles into specific points on the body. It is believed to stimulate the flow of energy, known as Qi, throughout the body. By unblocking energetic pathways, acupuncture promotes balance and enhances overall well-being.

3. Inner Alignment Coaching: Inner alignment coaching focuses on calming the nervous system (to reduce stress), gaining clarity on desires, and addressing any internal blocks, such as the lasting effects of family dysfunction, that may hinder conception. Through an eight-week coaching program, individuals learn to cultivate a sense of calm, align with their desires, and develop practices to work through any obstacles that are preventing pregnancy.

Conclusion:

Incorporating complementary therapies alongside traditional medical approaches can offer a holistic approach to fertility and pregnancy. By recognizing the energetic and non-physical components of our being, we can create an optimal environment for conception and overall well-being. Whether through practices like Reiki, acupuncture, or Inner Alignment Coaching, these therapies help to balance our energy, reduce stress, and align our intentions with our outcomes. By embracing the physical and energetic aspects of our existence, we can embark on a journey toward greater fertility, pregnancy, and overall wellness.

For more insights on complementary treatment book a free consultation with Sarah here: https://kindnest.as.me/?appointmentType=28817593

Understanding the Difference: Manifesting vs. Dreaming and How to Create Real Change in Your Life: Part 2

Inner Alignment is a powerful process that involves manifesting by harmonizing your inner self with your external desires. By understanding the connection between your internal state and external manifestations, you can intentionally create the life you envision. In this article, we will explore the process of manifestation. We will delve into the importance of identifying your true desires, practicing the associated feelings, and clearing away limiting beliefs and energy that hinder your progress.

The power of Inner Alignment manifestation begins with recognizing the significance of aligning your inner state with your external goals. This means understanding that what you desire externally is always a reflection of the feelings you seek to experience internally. By uncovering the true reasons you desire certain things, you gain clarity on the emotions and experiences you are truly seeking. This is essential because you cannot manifest something externally that is not aligned with how you feel internally.

Uncovering the underlying desires is essential because the next step is to consciously practice experiencing those feelings internally. By intentionally generating the desired emotions and thoughts associated with your goals, you create a resonance (energetic vibration) that attracts similar experiences into your life. By cultivating these internal states, you shift your energy and magnetize circumstances that align with your desires.

One of the most important parts of manifesting is being able to clear limiting beliefs. These limiting beliefs can be from past experiences, negative thoughts, and stored energy that creates interference with your ability to attract what you desire. It is crucial to work through these barriers by acknowledging and addressing them. By recognizing and releasing old patterns and beliefs that no longer serve you, you create space for new opportunities and possibilities to unfold.

Steps to successfully manifest your dreams.

1. Desire to change.

To effectively manifest your desires, you must be committed to the journey of self-discovery and personal growth. This requires a willingness to allow uncomfortable emotions and face any obstacles that stand in your way

2. Calming your nervous system.

Calming your nervous system is an essential foundational step, as it allows you to focus on your goals without being overwhelmed by stress or fear.

3. Clarity on goals and desires.

To manifest effectively, you must gain crystal-clear clarity on your goals and aspirations, and related feelings. Defining what you want to create externally enables you to understand the internal desires driving those goals. By aligning your internal feelings with your external goals, you can naturally manifest the desired outcomes.

4. Overcoming limiting beliefs.

Overcoming limiting beliefs and old energy requires addressing factors that act as barriers to your progress. These beliefs and energy are often deeply ingrained, influence your thoughts and actions, and block your ability to create the internal feeling required to manifest your external goal. By acknowledging and challenging these beliefs, you can dismantle their power and replace them with empowering thoughts and beliefs that support your manifestations.

5. Align your inner state with your external goals.

Conscious manifestation is a powerful process that involves aligning your inner state with your external goals. By practicing the desired feelings associated with your aspirations and clearing away interference from limiting beliefs and old energy, you create the ideal conditions for the manifestation of what you want to occur. 

Embracing the steps outlined in this article empowers you to consciously create the life you envision. With determination, self-awareness, and a willingness to get uncomfortable so you can overcome obstacles, you can embark on a transformative journey of manifestation and bring your dreams into reality. For more tips on how to manifest, sign up for a FREE CONSULTATION.

Understanding the Difference: Manifesting vs. Dreaming and How to Create Real Change in Your Life: Part 1

What’s the difference?

Manifesting and dreaming are two concepts that are often used interchangeably but they are actually quite different. While both involve focusing on something that feels good and that we desire, manifesting takes it a step further by actually taking deliberate conscious action to create what we want in our lives. We are subconsciously always manifesting or creating our reality; however to manifest your ideal life you have to make a conscious effort to create what you want. 

How it works

Physiologically speaking, the current cells within our body and the synapses within our brain were formed based on what we have been thinking about, feeling, or experiencing in the past. This means that our brains naturally create neural networks, meaning thoughts and actions based on what we have practiced in the past.

What we have thought, felt, and experienced in the past, both positive and negative, perpetually creates what we are manifesting in the present. It requires conscious effort to disrupt the pattern of the past and create what we truly want in our lives. Without conscious effort, we are just repeating the same patterns and experiences from our past, like a computer program that keeps repeating the same instructions.

However, most people will not make a deliberate conscious effort to manifest their desires until they reach a breaking point where they are fed up with their current situation and are desperate for change. This breaking point is what is called the "contrast," where we realize that we don't want what we currently have and the desire to change overpowers the inertia of the past.

From this point, our desire to change becomes a driving force that propels us towards taking deliberate conscious action to manifest our desires. This process requires inner alignment, which means aligning our inner state with our external desires. We need to create the feeling internally first in order to manifest the related desires and goals externally.

Manifesting involves a constant feedback loop between our thoughts, emotions, and physiology. We are always manifesting based upon our thoughts and feelings, conscious or conscious. When we think about something, we feel the associated emotions and chemicals in our body. This, in turn, reinforces our thoughts and creates a feedback loop that can either be positive or negative depending on our thoughts and emotions.

To use this to manifest what we desire, we must identify what it is that we truly desire and why we desire it. For example, if we want a luxurious house, we must ask ourselves what we will feel when we have that house. Will it make us feel successful, accomplished, or happy? Identifying these internal desires and feelings is crucial to creating the right mindset and inner alignment necessary for manifesting our desires.

In contrast, dreaming is a more passive process where we simply think about our desires without taking any deliberate action toward achieving them. While dreaming can be enjoyable and provide temporary relief, it does not lead to any real change or manifestation of our desires.

Why it matters

In conclusion, manifesting and dreaming are two distinct processes that involve focusing on our desires, but manifesting takes it a step further by requiring deliberate conscious action to create the change we want in our lives. By identifying our internal desires, aligning our inner state with our external desires, and taking deliberate action, we can manifest our desires and create the life we truly want.  To learn more about the process and how to manifest your desires read part 2 of this post in the upcoming weeks of June 2023.

To take matters into your own hands and start manifesting today sign up here https://www.kind-nest.com/inner-alignment-coaching and receive a free consultation!

Fed Up With Mom-Guilt?

Are you overwhelmed, exhausted, run down and tired of barking at your kids and then feeling guilty afterward?

Do you feel like there’s not enough time in the day for you or even if there was you wouldn’t have the energy to enjoy it?

Maybe you’ve “lost” yourself along the way in your efforts to be a “good” parent and you desperately want to feel alive again?

Perhaps you’re ready for a change but unsure how after focusing your energy on your family or are a stay at home parent who desperately needs to find time for self-care…

I get it!

Carving out time for self-care can be overwhelming for anyone. For a parent who’s responsible for keeping all the balls in the air on a daily basis, it can seem impossible.

But let me ask you…

If not now, when? The inertia of the rhythm of daily life as it is set up now will propel you years into the future — is that what your heart desires? Or is there something more, something different, or something new that you really yearn for? Without deliberate, conscious effort to change the trajectory of your life, it is certain — you will wake up the same each day, whether you like how it feels or not.

Knowing that you need a change is the first step…figuring out HOW is often the overwhelming part.

What if I told you the gift of a carefully curated array of SIMPLE, natural solutions is waiting for you?

It’s true. I’m here to show you…

Hi. I’m Sarah Denio.

I have been able to shed the anxiety, exhaustion, over-stimulation, self-doubt and mom-guilt that kept me up at night and create the family environment I’ve always dreamed of, with SIMPLE self-care. My journey through all of this was the impetus for KindNest, which has now supported hundreds of individuals and couples with simple, natural resources for parenting, healing after loss, trying to conceive, and pregnancy, since opening in 2019.

I often hear from parents who feel guilty for trying to carve out a little time for themselves. Like it’s a luxury they can’t afford. But what if it’s not a luxury? What if you’re going to pay a much steeper price if you don’t take care of yourself? What if incorporating these simple habits into you life will actually make you a happier person and therefore a better parent?

It may sound cliche but it’s true: if we don’t put on our own oxygen mask first, we have little to offer to others.

You can BE the person (and therefore the parent) you are meant to be, and KindNest is here to make clear that SIMPLEST route to that life you desire.

Intrigued?

KindNest offers simple options, ranging from on-demand courses and in-person or virtual Coaching.

You can also set up time to chat about the options in a (free) 30-minute phone consultation by clicking below.

xo-Sarah

Do You Look In The Mirror And Think: "I Really Thought I'd Have A Baby [Or Be Pregnant] By Now…"?

Learn how to let go of “working” toward your goal.

I was there too. I was obsessed. I overanalyzed what day of my cycle it was, what I put into and on my body, any potential sign or symptom of ovulation or pregnancy…

It didn’t take long for it to not feel good to live like that, yet I couldn’t help myself — I wanted to be pregnant SO badly! I didn’t know what else to do…

But I had the sense that fixation may not be healthy. So I turned the obsession into figuring out what WOULD get me to my goal.

Guess what?

Turns out the same habits that had me feeling like I was on a hamster wheel in my mind all day were likely preventing me from getting pregnant!

What I needed were capabilities for success. Tools that would allow me to tap into my innate potential as a woman — To use my mind and my body in a way that was productive (and re-productive!)

And through research, trying things out in my own life, throwing out what didn’t work and keeping what did, seeing/living the results, and then formalizing these habits into repeatable practice…because I’ve distilled the plan down to what actually what achieves results:

I have now been able to help LOTS of others become pregnant in less than 8 weeks!!!

And not only are they pregnant but they’re seeing their entire lives transform before their eyes.

It’s true: MORE THAN 90% OF WOMEN WHO HAVE PUT THESE PRACTICES INTO USE IN THEIR DAILY LIVES HAVE BECOME PREGNANT IN LESS 8 WEEKS!

Ask Yourself Honestly:

• Control: Am I ready to leave in the rear view mirror the anxiety, control, and analysis of every single thing I do or put in or on my body?

• Trust: Am I ready to reclaim trust in my body?

• ​Ease: Am I ready for having a baby to feel EASY?

If you answered “YES!” to these questions, it’s time to explore whether Conception Accelerator Coaching will work for YOU!

NOTE: This program will REQUIRE you to allow yourself to let go of the notion that you have to work harder in order to achieve what you desire in life.

THIS will be that “work”. If that doesn’t appeal to you, this program is NOT for you.

Intrigued? Keep reading…

The Proven All-Natural Conception Accelerator Program

In this program you will learn what actually works — simple yet powerful capabilities, that can literally transform every aspect of your life while allowing you to have what you desire — a baby!

I know, that sounds like a tall order, but it’s real. I’ve seen it work in my own life and my coaching clients’ lives, and now I’m ready to share it with you!

Sessions take place virtually or in-person, depending on your location and preference.

CAN YOU IMAGINE WHAT LIFE WOULD BE LIKE IF YOU TOO COULD HAVE THE SUCCESS MY CLIENTS HAVE HAD?

For inspiration, check out what others are saying…

“I didn’t know (or like) the person I became while trying to conceive and it was very unsettling. Through coaching sessions with Sarah I was able to find space and ground myself through breathing, visualizing and positive thought processes that helped me through the cloud of anxiety.” -Darcie

“Even before finding out I was pregnant, I felt this experience was invaluable. I now feel empowered, I trust myself and my body, and I have gained skills that have improved all aspects of my life. I can’t recommend this coaching enough, it has truly changed my life in more ways than one.” -Marissa

“I can seriously not say enough about KindNest. Sarah was a miracle worker, between the reiki and coaching it was like I became a new person with all the tools that could handle anything that came my way. I know for a fact Sarah was who helped me get pregnant. After 2 years, a miscarriage, all the acupuncture, Chinese herbs, and fertility treatments, it wasn’t until I met with her and worked through stuff that I got pregnant and my little girl is just perfect (I had stopped fertility treatments at the time of getting pregnant so I know it was her).” -Nichole

“I didn’t really know what I wanted to achieve besides the obvious of becoming pregnant (which I did!) but I took away SO much more from this coaching than I ever expected about trusting myself and empowering my body.” - MM

“I can’t say enough good things about the fertility coaching. I went into it with my one goal and that was to get pregnant but I’m walking away with so much more. Practical life tools to help navigate fertility, triggers and everything! So grateful for Sarah and her coaching.” - Melissa

FORGET THE ENDLESS WAITING…GET STARTED TODAY!!!

We’ve all heard about couples who try for years to have a baby before finally deciding to adopt, only to end up with a biological child and adopted child of similar ages. My clients learn how to unblock what’s holding them back and achieve that surrender, WITHOUT the years of anguish and mountains of paperwork.

I hope you’ll schedule your complimentary consultation today (joining the tribe of women before you) and take positive action to put yourself on the path to pregnancy and parenthood right this minute!

SCHEDULE YOUR FREE PHONE CONSULTATION

Schedule a 30 minute phone consultation to learn about Conception Accelerator Coaching. We’ll spend a little time getting to know one another and you will come away with recommendations for next steps based upon your unique situation and desires.

How To Look To The Future With Hope After Loss…

How To Look To The Future With Hope After Loss…

…even if you’re scared of getting stuck in feelings of sadness.

My journey to becoming a mother was a bumpy one. Having come through to the other side, I can now see clearly many of the “silver linings”, lessons that I carry with me to this day, which came from those dark times.

Note: This is not a “everything happens for a reason” post. I know that’s not helpful. I’m interested in sharing what DOES make a difference on the road to healing after pregnancy loss.

The fact is, it’s nearly impossible to heal when something hurts so badly that each time we think about it we have to push it away, shove it down, save it for later or else risk losing control.

The bad news

There are no two ways about it: When we push something under the rug, it leaves a lump. And each time we tread there, we are left with the choice of going out of our way to circumvent it OR to stay the course and trip over it each time. What’s not allowed will remain; as the saying goes “what we resist, persists.”

When it comes to losing a baby, that lump in the rug is pretty big: thoughts of what went wrong, what might have been, what it means for the future…the grief, sadness, anger and resentment can be extremely overwhelming and the fact is most of us are not prepared nor equipped to handle it.

Add to it the roller coaster of lingering pregnancy hormones flooding your body, combined with stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline (triggered by your body’s natural “fight or flight” response), and it’s no wonder you feel like a mess.

The good news

Allowing the unwelcome feelings at a time you choose can be extremely empowering, and we have a resource that walks you through how. It’s a free guided meditation.

By simply giving yourself the time and space to honor how you feel, you can allow your feelings to come to the surface without getting stuck in them, offer yourself some much-needed and -deserved compassion and relief, and in time, truly heal.

KindNest offers a range of options for supporting yourself in allowing the unwelcome emotions, so you may take steps in the direction of healing and looking to the future with hope, ranging from a Healing Essentials digital course to one-on-one coaching.

The Most Important Takeaway From My Fertility-to-Parenting Journey

Introduction:

My name is Sarah Denio and I want to share with you the story of how I became the founder of KindNest, a hub of simple, natural, powerful resources for fertility, healing after loss, pregnancy, parenting and wellness.

To understand the most important takeaway, it’s helpful to know the back story…

WHAT HAPPENED: THE BACKSTORY

I come from a large extended family, with my parents having a combined total of 19 siblings. Therefore I had always assumed that starting my own family would happen easily. Like many, I spent years actively preventing pregnancy until I was ready to have kids, and then I thought it would just happen.

After I met my husband and we got married, we decided to start trying for a baby. I thought it was going to happen pretty much right away. I’m not typically a super anxious person, but when I wasn’t pregnant after the first few months, I started getting nervous. Was something wrong?

And so I did what many of us do when faced with fear: I began trying to control as much of the process as I possibly could. I started micro-managing everything I could possibly think of that might “increase my chances of conception.”

Not only was I timing intercourse, but I was also spending exorbitant amounts of time on fertility and pregnancy blogs, apps and podcasts, taking my temperature, tracking the day of my cycle and how many days post ovulation I was, trolling the ends of the internet learning about cervical mucus, symptom-spotting early signs of pregnancy during the dreaded two-week-wait…you name it — if it can’t hurt, might help, I was on it.

Then, just a few short months later, I got pregnant! I was overjoyed! All my worries and fears dissolved to thin air as I blissfully traded my micro-management tasks for day-dreaming about telling my friends and eying the Maternity section at Target.

But my bliss was short-lived.

A little over a month later, I lost the baby. At our first prenatal visit, my husband and I had gotten to see our little bean’s healthy heartbeat, so the shock of finding out our baby was no longer living upon returning a few weeks later…it was devastating.

I had a D&C (a medical procedure to remove the “products of conception” ←horrible term if you ask me…) and went home feeling like a hollow shell. I wasn’t sure I wanted to put myself through that again, though I really wanted to have a baby.

Then, though I couldn’t see it at the time, something amazing happened…

I turned the focus of my internet researching skills to this new topic of pregnancy loss and was amazed to find scientific evidence that loss is significantly less likely when pregnant people receive additional support. It wasn’t crazy stuff either; it was simple things like calming the mind and honoring the time of a previous loss.

This was enough for me to muster the courage to try again. I didn’t actually DO anything differently, mind you, but I decided to try and believe that if others could have babies after loss, so could I.

I became pregnant again a few short months later but rather than feeling excited I was scared to death. What it if happened again? It was such a mind-screw: being pregnant was exactly what I wanted, more than anything, and yet I was plagued by fear and anxiety about the fact that I was — I checked the toilet paper for blood each time I went to the bathroom, poked at my breasts to see if they were still tender and reminded myself not to get too excited each time my mind wandered to a future including a baby.

It was such a roller coaster.

And then my worst fears came true. I lost that baby too. Now, not only did I have the grief of loss and question of whether something was wrong with me to cope with, but also the nagging feeling that perhaps my fear and anxiety had had something to do with it. Of course there was no way of knowing, but it certainly added salt to the wound.

We found out about the second loss at my OB’s office where the doctor told me I’d be sent for testing if it happened again. (This seems to be standard protocol, testing after a 3rd consecutive loss…!) I couldn’t fathom the thought of waiting to see if it happened again and asked for the testing sooner. I was referred to a local fertility clinic where testing found no notable cause for my losses.

But…while I was under their care, I became pregnant again (without medical intervention). The old fear and anxiety were raring and ready to go, BUT this time, per fertility clinic protocol, I received concrete evidence via ultrasounds and bloodwork each week that my little one was still growing, which enabled me to keep the darkest demons at bay.

9 months later, my 1st daughter was born, a healthy 7+ lbs, after 24hours of unmedicated labor, an epidural, another 8 hours of labor, and ultimately C-section. She was colicky, not gaining weight properly during her first weeks of life, and wouldn’t sleep anywhere but the car, but she was here and I was overjoyed! I had done it. I became a mother.

But the backstory doesn’t end there…

After that, I decided to wait a year or so and then give TTC another go so my husband and I could complete our mission of having 2 kids, as we had always envisioned.

But there was still a problem.

You may recall that when I became pregnant with my 1st daughter, I hadn’t actually done anything differently, which meant when I started trying again the old fear and anxiety were waiting in the wings. I hadn’t really healed from the prior losses or learned to believe in my body’s innate wisdom and capabilities. When we began trying again after my daughter turned 1, I told myself the prior losses had to have been a fluke.

And then we lost 2 more babies.

After the first I had another D&C. Following the next (what thankfully turned out to be the last) loss, EVERYTHING CHANGED.

HOW IT GOT THE FAMILY I WANTED

I KNEW I had to do something differently. I felt it in my bones. “This isn’t working. Something HAS to change” I heard myself say. And I recalled the research showing significantly better outcomes when pregnant people receive additional support. Since that type of support wasn’t readily available, I decided to figure out what it meant for me and to do whatever was needed to create it myself.

It began with choosing not to have a medical procedure to “take care of things”. Of course no one had said those words to me, but it’s how it felt to me. Like the losses and everything to do with them were happening to me and I was just helplessly along for the ride.

I instead waited for my body to recognize what was happening and worked through it all at home. That allowed me to begin feeling like I had some say in the situation, and that I could trust my body to do the right thing.

I had felt like someone else had been recklessly driving this train of my fertility journey, and I decided to take back the wheel.

I started studying yoga and mediation at home and practicing what I learned each morning, to train my mind to slow down and focus on what I wanted. I took a hard look at my diet and tried a couple different cleanses. I planted a vegetable garden from seed for the very first time, and witnessed my ability to nurture and grow life as some of the seeds withered away and others blossomed to bear fruit.

Ultimately, I occupied my mind with new thoughts and engaged my body in activities that FELT GOOD. Which had the side benefit of meaning I spent less time worrying about whether and when I would have another baby.

I didn’t understand it at the time but what I now know is this really meant I was no longer living in survival mode: I was no longer flooding my body with stress hormones day and night thanks all my pointless micro-managing, “doing doing doing” to conceive.

Just 3 months later, we conceived our 2nd daughter, to whom I gave birth in a completely natural, unmedicated VBAC delivery for which I arrived at the hospital already 10 cm dilated and pushed for 3 hours. It was one of the most empowering experiences of my life. I had no drugs, no tearing, no hemorrhoids, no fear… Her birth not only codified my family of 4 but the strength of my relationship to myself and my ability to give birth to ANYTHING my heart desires.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING I LEARNED & HOW IT CHANGED MY LIFE

How would I sum up the point of this story? The most important thing I learned is that all I ever needed to do was embrace living my life and being my true self. Shedding what was no longer serving me and embracing what felt good.

Perhaps that sounds overly simple but in truth, most of us have no idea HOW to do that. It takes coming to a cross roads of sorts to motivate us seek out the resources needed to make a change that realigns our lives. And then making that choice to DO something.

Otherwise the inertia of life as it is propels us years in to the future, whether we like it or not. It begins with that one problem we feel we need to tackle, and if we find the right person to show us how, it then permeates ALL areas of life.

That’s what I did. I needed to tackle how to become a parent and in doing so, I learned how to become myself. I can now manifest anything my heart desires.

When all was said and done I had begun living my life in a way that felt good each day, which means I’m a more joyful person, loving wife, patient mother, connected daughter and real friend to this day.

SO many of the things I had been doing to try and get and stay pregnant were fleeting and unproductive… But now I can truly say that because of this, I am forever changed, for the better.

Which is why I decided to create KindNest, to make it simple for others to embrace their lives as I have learned to do, shed what’s no longer serving them and become themselves. I became a coach so I could operationalize what I had learned on my own journey and share with others how they too can transform from controlling to embracing, using simple tools and practices, and be forever changed for the better.

KindNest’s mission is to help individuals build the families of their dreams, by simply becoming who they are meant to BE.

Whether you’re trying again after a loss or have been at it for a few months but it feels more like a few years… Whether you’ve been diagnosed with infertility or OCD or depression or some other medical label, are already in the middle of fertility treatments, or had 3 kids but have lost yourself along the way, I want you to know there IS hope, you are not alone, and it can be much simpler than you ever imagined from this point forward. Reach out to learn more.